1 00:00:09,210 --> 00:00:10,930 # I was tired of being upset 2 00:00:11,130 --> 00:00:13,290 # Always wanting something I never could get 3 00:00:13,490 --> 00:00:15,410 # Life's an illusion, love is a dream 4 00:00:15,610 --> 00:00:19,130 # But I don't know what it is 5 00:00:19,330 --> 00:00:22,850 # Everybody's happy nowadays 6 00:00:26,850 --> 00:00:32,090 # Everybody's happy nowadays... # 7 00:00:32,890 --> 00:00:34,890 CREDITS 8 00:00:37,130 --> 00:00:39,130 Food for table three. 9 00:00:45,530 --> 00:00:47,370 There you go, a cappuccino. 10 00:00:52,850 --> 00:00:54,250 Hello? 11 00:00:54,450 --> 00:00:56,330 # Life's an illusion, love is the dream 12 00:00:56,530 --> 00:00:58,210 # Life's the illusion, love is the dream 13 00:00:58,410 --> 00:01:01,010 # Life's the illusion, love is the dream... # 14 00:01:04,010 --> 00:01:05,050 Stay back. 15 00:01:05,250 --> 00:01:08,090 I went up the ladder, but he started moving around 16 00:01:08,290 --> 00:01:10,250 so we're keeping it calm and low-key. 17 00:01:10,450 --> 00:01:12,810 Calm and low-key? It's not a hostage negotiation. 18 00:01:13,010 --> 00:01:14,370 What are his demands? 19 00:01:14,570 --> 00:01:17,250 A pizza and helicopter to Alton Towers? I'm here now. 20 00:01:17,450 --> 00:01:18,170 Fun time's over. 21 00:01:18,370 --> 00:01:19,370 We've rung his mum and dad. 22 00:01:19,570 --> 00:01:21,970 Look, we don't want to alarm him in case he falls. 23 00:01:22,170 --> 00:01:24,090 I've got it. Calm and low-key. 24 00:01:24,290 --> 00:01:28,450 Joe! Joe! Ground Control to Major Tom. Get down here now! 25 00:01:29,730 --> 00:01:31,450 Not so close to the edge, Joe. 26 00:01:31,650 --> 00:01:34,730 Hey! Joke's over, son. Now get down! 27 00:01:34,930 --> 00:01:37,730 I'm counting to three and you're coming down. One. Two... 28 00:01:39,930 --> 00:01:41,250 ..three. 29 00:01:44,130 --> 00:01:46,170 Has anybody got a big net and a bag of crisps? 30 00:01:46,370 --> 00:01:49,010 Why didn't you keep your eye on him? 31 00:01:49,210 --> 00:01:50,130 I thought it was your job. 32 00:01:50,330 --> 00:01:52,690 I'm his Learning Support. I'm not with him every minute of the day. 33 00:01:52,890 --> 00:01:55,010 Well, who was, then? Buzz Lightyear? Now, come on, Joe! 34 00:01:55,210 --> 00:01:56,770 That's enough! Down! Down! 35 00:01:59,490 --> 00:02:02,490 All right, call off the Swat team. Batman and Robin have arrived. 36 00:02:02,690 --> 00:02:04,450 Mr Joe's Dad! It's Joe! 37 00:02:04,650 --> 00:02:06,330 It's Joe! He's doing a Joe! 38 00:02:06,530 --> 00:02:08,210 I can see. Thanks, Ramesh. 39 00:02:10,090 --> 00:02:12,290 Special needs is all well and good. 40 00:02:12,490 --> 00:02:13,650 That's enough, Mr Elliot. 41 00:02:16,490 --> 00:02:19,530 Well, this is a thing, little man. 42 00:02:19,730 --> 00:02:22,090 Everybody's Happy Nowadays. Buzzcocks. 1979. 43 00:02:22,290 --> 00:02:25,130 Written by? Come down now, Joe. 44 00:02:25,330 --> 00:02:30,690 Everybody's Happy Nowadays. Buzzcocks. 1979. Written by? 45 00:02:30,890 --> 00:02:34,050 Come down and I'll tell you. Written by? 46 00:02:34,250 --> 00:02:37,210 No. That's not what happens. What happens? 47 00:02:37,410 --> 00:02:42,650 What happens is you come down and I'll tell you. 48 00:02:45,570 --> 00:02:47,050 Is Baby Emily here? 49 00:02:47,250 --> 00:02:49,730 Baby Emily is waiting in the playground. 50 00:02:51,210 --> 00:02:56,650 Everybody's Happy Nowadays. Buzzcocks. 1979. Written by? 51 00:03:24,650 --> 00:03:27,150 Hey? How did he get hold of your ladders? 52 00:03:27,350 --> 00:03:29,650 I were getting a football off the roof. 53 00:03:29,850 --> 00:03:32,010 Not, strictly speaking, part of my job description, 54 00:03:32,210 --> 00:03:32,970 but that's by the by. 55 00:03:33,170 --> 00:03:35,130 You couldn't stop him? A seven-year-old? 56 00:03:35,330 --> 00:03:36,130 I didn't see him. 57 00:03:36,330 --> 00:03:39,770 And even if I had, I couldn't've, you know, physically stopped him. 58 00:03:39,970 --> 00:03:42,690 Well, not without filling out a form in triplicate. 59 00:03:47,810 --> 00:03:49,090 Pete Shelley. 60 00:03:58,650 --> 00:03:59,970 Well done. 61 00:04:03,890 --> 00:04:05,050 Sorry, folks, sorry. 62 00:04:05,250 --> 00:04:06,930 As long as he's safe and sound. 63 00:04:07,130 --> 00:04:08,610 Yeah. Don't worry about it. 64 00:04:08,810 --> 00:04:10,730 I'm sure you'd rather he was sitting on the roof than 65 00:04:10,930 --> 00:04:14,330 hitting his head on his desk, hey? You're brilliant at handling it. 66 00:04:14,530 --> 00:04:15,850 I... I can't think how it must be for you. 67 00:04:16,050 --> 00:04:18,390 I've explained to my two that he's different so they're fine 68 00:04:18,590 --> 00:04:20,730 with it, but maybe not all the other kids are, you know? 69 00:04:20,930 --> 00:04:24,010 Yeah, thanks, Linda, but, erm, thanks again and sorry, folks. 70 00:04:24,210 --> 00:04:24,970 We'll sort it. 71 00:04:25,170 --> 00:04:28,050 Mr Joe's Grandad? Is Joe really in trouble? 72 00:04:28,250 --> 00:04:29,450 I doubt it, son. 73 00:04:29,650 --> 00:04:30,570 They'll probably give him 74 00:04:30,770 --> 00:04:32,570 a government grant for performing arts. 75 00:04:39,530 --> 00:04:41,410 Grab hold...grab hold of that. 76 00:04:41,610 --> 00:04:45,530 Did anything happen at school today, Joe, that made you sad? 77 00:04:45,730 --> 00:04:50,570 Or upset? Let me see now. 78 00:04:50,770 --> 00:04:55,130 Why did you go up there, Joe? Were you missing Terry this afternoon? 79 00:04:55,330 --> 00:04:57,930 I was missing Terry this afternoon. 80 00:04:58,130 --> 00:05:01,610 Was it your school work? Something too hard for you? 81 00:05:01,810 --> 00:05:03,130 Was it my school work? 82 00:05:03,330 --> 00:05:05,290 Joe. 83 00:05:05,490 --> 00:05:08,810 Has someone been bullying you, Joe? Cos I tell you what, 84 00:05:09,010 --> 00:05:10,810 if a lad gives you a dig, you give 'em a dig back. 85 00:05:11,010 --> 00:05:12,570 But ten times harder. Thanks, Maurice. 86 00:05:12,770 --> 00:05:14,050 OK. Let's try this. 87 00:05:14,250 --> 00:05:16,290 You went on the roof because... 88 00:05:17,730 --> 00:05:18,850 Because. 89 00:05:19,050 --> 00:05:20,770 Joe? Because... 90 00:05:22,130 --> 00:05:23,570 I'm autistic. 91 00:05:28,250 --> 00:05:32,610 I'm autistic. I'm autistic. I'm autistic. Nobody wants that. 92 00:05:38,690 --> 00:05:40,290 Told you it was bullying. 93 00:05:41,690 --> 00:05:43,010 Maurice. Go and tell Louise that 94 00:05:43,210 --> 00:05:44,970 he won't be coming for his uke lesson today. 95 00:05:45,170 --> 00:05:46,290 Can't you phone her? 96 00:05:46,490 --> 00:05:49,450 Look, we owe her two weeks money and he needs his music for next week. 97 00:05:49,650 --> 00:05:50,490 Go on. 98 00:05:56,850 --> 00:05:58,050 Hi. Hiya. 99 00:05:59,210 --> 00:06:02,450 Hello, Emily. I hope you've had a nice day with Alison. 100 00:06:02,650 --> 00:06:04,050 It's all in the book, OK? 101 00:06:04,250 --> 00:06:05,650 Oh, OK, quick, thank you! 102 00:06:05,850 --> 00:06:06,850 Pleasure. 103 00:06:09,450 --> 00:06:11,330 Now, then, young lady... 104 00:06:15,090 --> 00:06:18,890 Right, then, it's Wednesday, so it's pasta with tomato sauce, 105 00:06:19,090 --> 00:06:20,130 and banana for afters. 106 00:06:20,330 --> 00:06:21,490 Nicola. 107 00:06:24,250 --> 00:06:25,370 Oh, shit! 108 00:06:27,810 --> 00:06:29,410 Well, this is a surprise. 109 00:06:29,610 --> 00:06:31,450 And you know I don't like surprises. 110 00:06:32,450 --> 00:06:34,570 Well, we came to see you! Didn't we? 111 00:06:34,770 --> 00:06:35,810 Yes, we did! 112 00:06:36,010 --> 00:06:38,290 Hasn't she grown? And a lovely smile. 113 00:06:38,490 --> 00:06:41,370 Ye... Yeah, though I think her increasingly organised limb 114 00:06:41,570 --> 00:06:44,450 movements are more remarkable than a smile which has been around 115 00:06:44,650 --> 00:06:46,890 since she was six weeks and socially reinforced ever since. 116 00:06:49,610 --> 00:06:50,530 Where's Eddie? 117 00:06:50,730 --> 00:06:54,330 Eddie? Ah, what, what do you mean, where's Eddie? 118 00:06:54,530 --> 00:06:58,130 He's at work, of course. Eddie, Eddie's at work. Why? 119 00:06:59,690 --> 00:07:03,130 We just like to see both of you together, that's all. 120 00:07:03,330 --> 00:07:04,410 Are you all right? 121 00:07:04,610 --> 00:07:09,010 Like I said, I don't like surprises. And neither does Eddie. 122 00:07:14,650 --> 00:07:16,130 PHONE RINGS 123 00:07:26,090 --> 00:07:31,290 Eddie. Erm, there's a problem. You need to get here. 124 00:07:31,490 --> 00:07:32,490 Right now. 125 00:07:37,210 --> 00:07:38,250 Joe? 126 00:07:44,290 --> 00:07:47,490 Joe. You know that word you said? Autistic? Do you remember? 127 00:07:52,130 --> 00:07:53,570 Whole Wide World. 128 00:07:55,170 --> 00:07:57,370 Wreckless Eric. 1977. 129 00:07:57,570 --> 00:08:00,210 You know how you find some things a bit more difficult 130 00:08:00,410 --> 00:08:01,370 than the other kids? 131 00:08:03,730 --> 00:08:06,130 Let me see now... 132 00:08:08,450 --> 00:08:10,570 No. Hong Kong Garden. 133 00:08:10,770 --> 00:08:12,810 Siouxsie And The Banshees. 1978. 134 00:08:13,010 --> 00:08:17,250 So today, when you went up on the roof, what did you go up there for? 135 00:08:17,450 --> 00:08:18,450 Can you remember? 136 00:08:22,570 --> 00:08:25,130 Did somebody say something to you, Joe? 137 00:08:29,250 --> 00:08:30,810 The Haribos. 138 00:08:31,010 --> 00:08:32,450 What about the Haribos? 139 00:08:33,610 --> 00:08:37,170 What about the Haribos? You didn't find them, did you? 140 00:08:37,370 --> 00:08:40,930 No. Where didn't you find them? 141 00:08:42,450 --> 00:08:43,970 Under the sink. 142 00:08:44,170 --> 00:08:46,210 And where didn't you eat them? 143 00:08:47,290 --> 00:08:50,690 Under my bed. 144 00:08:50,890 --> 00:08:54,090 Right! OK. Right. 145 00:08:54,290 --> 00:08:56,690 Is it me or did he just do a number on us? 146 00:08:56,890 --> 00:08:59,730 I thought you were going to ask him what he thinks autistic means. 147 00:08:59,930 --> 00:09:00,810 Well, I thought you were. 148 00:09:01,010 --> 00:09:03,170 He clearly doesn't want to talk about it, does he? 149 00:09:03,370 --> 00:09:05,850 No. Because he thinks it's bad. Or wrong. 150 00:09:06,050 --> 00:09:07,210 No, we don't know that. 151 00:09:07,410 --> 00:09:09,890 Well, why else would he say, "Nobody wants that"? 152 00:09:10,090 --> 00:09:12,570 There's got to be something on the internet about this! 153 00:09:12,770 --> 00:09:15,650 Or we could talk to actual human beings that have been through 154 00:09:15,850 --> 00:09:16,650 the same thing. 155 00:09:16,850 --> 00:09:19,010 Please not the Parents Support Group. 156 00:09:20,050 --> 00:09:22,050 How can you say that when you've never been? 157 00:09:22,250 --> 00:09:25,290 Three little words. "Parents", "Support" and "Group." 158 00:09:25,490 --> 00:09:28,570 Three more. "Narrow", "Minded" and "Twat". 159 00:09:28,770 --> 00:09:30,170 It's like I've never been away. 160 00:09:32,490 --> 00:09:35,010 Ah, there she is! Oh, you're back. 161 00:09:35,210 --> 00:09:38,810 Ah, look at ya. My baby! 162 00:09:39,010 --> 00:09:40,090 All right? 163 00:09:42,530 --> 00:09:43,750 It's James. 164 00:09:43,950 --> 00:09:44,970 Alison. 165 00:09:45,170 --> 00:09:46,930 Oh, I think we met on Facetime once. 166 00:09:47,130 --> 00:09:47,850 Was that Uganda? 167 00:09:48,050 --> 00:09:49,930 You were moving around in the background in a very small towel. 168 00:09:49,990 --> 00:09:52,210 I don't remember the country. 169 00:09:59,090 --> 00:10:00,490 Guess who's here? 170 00:10:01,930 --> 00:10:02,770 Shrek. 171 00:10:02,970 --> 00:10:04,210 Not this time. 172 00:10:07,290 --> 00:10:08,570 Hello you. 173 00:10:11,170 --> 00:10:13,890 You went away and you came back. 174 00:10:14,090 --> 00:10:15,330 That's right! 175 00:10:15,530 --> 00:10:17,610 I've been back all the time. 176 00:10:17,810 --> 00:10:19,090 That's right. 177 00:10:20,810 --> 00:10:23,330 Something Better Change. 178 00:10:23,530 --> 00:10:26,050 The Stranglers. 1977. 179 00:10:26,250 --> 00:10:27,250 Correct. 180 00:10:35,570 --> 00:10:38,450 Joe won't be here today and they wanted you to have this. 181 00:10:38,650 --> 00:10:40,730 Thank you. He's not still on the school roof, is he? 182 00:10:40,930 --> 00:10:41,850 Ralph mentioned it. 183 00:10:42,050 --> 00:10:44,970 No. No. Wait there. I've got next week's music for him. 184 00:10:48,770 --> 00:10:50,090 Hiya. 185 00:10:51,410 --> 00:10:54,090 Tricky chord change from G to F. G to F, you're saying. G to F. 186 00:10:54,290 --> 00:10:55,170 Yes. 187 00:10:58,930 --> 00:11:00,410 You all right. You keeping busy? 188 00:11:00,610 --> 00:11:02,050 Yes, thank you. 189 00:11:03,210 --> 00:11:05,970 Just children you're teaching now, is it? No adults? No men? 190 00:11:06,170 --> 00:11:09,370 Or women? At all? 191 00:11:09,570 --> 00:11:13,450 No. Not at the moment. But, er, thanks for the interest. 192 00:11:23,330 --> 00:11:24,770 That was so close. 193 00:11:26,970 --> 00:11:28,210 So close. 194 00:11:28,410 --> 00:11:29,930 You can give me a lift to the brewery. 195 00:11:30,130 --> 00:11:32,810 Have a look at that computer shit. You put it in wrong. 196 00:11:33,010 --> 00:11:34,750 Dad, it's you. Not the program. 197 00:11:34,950 --> 00:11:36,490 And I can't. Nicola needs me. 198 00:11:36,690 --> 00:11:38,450 Light bulb need changing, does it? 199 00:12:04,930 --> 00:12:09,890 So... Uganda. That must've been quite an experience. 200 00:12:10,090 --> 00:12:16,450 Yeah. Before that, worked on a conservation project in Zanzibar. 201 00:12:16,650 --> 00:12:20,010 Wow. Freeing dolphins from tuna nets. 202 00:12:20,210 --> 00:12:21,090 Really? 203 00:12:23,730 --> 00:12:24,890 Really? 204 00:12:27,010 --> 00:12:30,250 That's fascinating. You into conservation? 205 00:12:30,450 --> 00:12:32,650 Yeah, yeah. I do my bit. 206 00:12:35,170 --> 00:12:37,970 I can't pass a worm on a path without putting it 207 00:12:38,170 --> 00:12:39,650 in the nearest flowerbed. 208 00:12:59,370 --> 00:13:03,650 Hiya, Eddie, we were wondering when you'd be back. Vincent! 209 00:13:03,850 --> 00:13:05,830 How was the drive? Very, very fast. 210 00:13:06,030 --> 00:13:08,010 Just keep pretending. I am pretending. 211 00:13:11,170 --> 00:13:13,570 Pretend you're still married? What would I do that for? 212 00:13:13,770 --> 00:13:16,170 Because I asked? And because everyone else has agreed 213 00:13:16,370 --> 00:13:17,250 to go along with it. 214 00:13:17,450 --> 00:13:20,330 But mainly because Nicola says so and she's got your cock in a noose. 215 00:13:20,530 --> 00:13:21,970 She just hasn't told her mum and dad yet that 216 00:13:22,070 --> 00:13:23,470 we've split up and I've moved away. 217 00:13:23,570 --> 00:13:24,910 It's been two years! We should have christened you 218 00:13:25,010 --> 00:13:26,410 Soft Touch and had done with it. 219 00:13:26,810 --> 00:13:28,250 Dad, just behave yourself. 220 00:13:28,450 --> 00:13:31,810 I'm not making any promises. Unlike you two on your wedding day. 221 00:13:35,890 --> 00:13:37,290 Right. 222 00:13:38,370 --> 00:13:40,410 OK, he's started using the word autistic. 223 00:13:40,610 --> 00:13:43,170 And we should have been ready for that, but we weren't. 224 00:13:43,370 --> 00:13:45,730 And worse than that, he clearly thinks it's a bad thing. 225 00:13:45,930 --> 00:13:47,930 We tried to talking to him about it, he doesn't want to, so I just, 226 00:13:48,030 --> 00:13:49,730 I don't really know what we do next. 227 00:13:49,930 --> 00:13:52,890 Well, maybe try talking to each other about it first. 228 00:13:53,090 --> 00:13:53,930 That's all we ever do. 229 00:13:54,130 --> 00:13:56,570 No, I mean, one of you pretend to be Joe, 230 00:13:56,770 --> 00:13:59,810 and then the other explain it to Joe so Joe understands. 231 00:14:00,010 --> 00:14:01,170 OK, like role play? Yeah. 232 00:14:01,370 --> 00:14:04,090 Paul. Two more beers down this end when you're ready. 233 00:14:04,290 --> 00:14:06,810 Any chance your family could role play as paying customers? 234 00:14:07,010 --> 00:14:10,290 Who would have thought that offal could find its way into a salad? 235 00:14:10,490 --> 00:14:11,410 This is wonderful. 236 00:14:11,610 --> 00:14:13,730 You must know more than anybody in your line of work 237 00:14:13,930 --> 00:14:16,370 that marriages have their ups and downs, right? 238 00:14:16,570 --> 00:14:19,010 It's a long and winding road, that's for sure. 239 00:14:19,210 --> 00:14:20,650 Amen to that. 240 00:14:28,890 --> 00:14:31,970 Where's Emily? There she is. 241 00:14:32,170 --> 00:14:36,330 Always full of beans. Lining things up. Our Eddie was the same. 242 00:14:36,530 --> 00:14:39,130 'Cept in his case it was his mam's shoes, so, 243 00:14:39,330 --> 00:14:40,850 we've all got our crosses to bear. 244 00:14:41,050 --> 00:14:42,410 No offence. 245 00:14:42,610 --> 00:14:43,970 None taken. 246 00:14:47,890 --> 00:14:48,930 So let me get this right, 247 00:14:49,130 --> 00:14:51,850 Joe's the only one who doesn't know he's autistic? 248 00:14:52,050 --> 00:14:54,890 It's a little bit more complicated than that. 249 00:14:55,090 --> 00:14:56,530 So it's, like, what, a secret? 250 00:14:56,730 --> 00:14:58,830 No, no, it's not a secret, exactly. 251 00:14:59,030 --> 00:15:00,930 If you were keeping it a secret, 252 00:15:01,130 --> 00:15:04,010 maybe that's why he thinks it's a bad thing. 253 00:15:04,210 --> 00:15:05,170 Told you he's smart, didn't I? 254 00:15:05,370 --> 00:15:07,250 Way smarter than your last boyfriend. 255 00:15:07,450 --> 00:15:09,810 It's not exactly a high bar, though, James. 256 00:15:10,010 --> 00:15:11,250 You don't get to win Hanwell Lads Welterweight 257 00:15:11,350 --> 00:15:13,250 three times on the trot 258 00:15:14,050 --> 00:15:14,450 without some staying power. 259 00:15:14,650 --> 00:15:16,930 Oh, you boxed, did ya? I didn't know that. 260 00:15:20,850 --> 00:15:23,250 Do you like having a baby cousin, Joe? 261 00:15:26,010 --> 00:15:27,130 Joe. 262 00:15:32,010 --> 00:15:33,530 Do you like Baby Emily? 263 00:15:33,730 --> 00:15:36,090 I like Baby Emily. 264 00:15:36,290 --> 00:15:38,570 It's good practice for when you have a baby sister 265 00:15:38,770 --> 00:15:40,010 or brother of your own one day. 266 00:15:41,770 --> 00:15:45,130 We don't want another baby. We have enough with me. 267 00:15:48,330 --> 00:15:50,810 Oh, I see. 268 00:15:52,530 --> 00:15:55,410 Well, we like a man who speaks his mind, hey, Vincent? 269 00:15:57,170 --> 00:15:59,090 Well done, Joe! 270 00:16:04,170 --> 00:16:06,090 What if James has got a point? 271 00:16:06,290 --> 00:16:07,490 About what? 272 00:16:07,690 --> 00:16:12,330 That, that we're cowards, for not talking to Joe about his autism. 273 00:16:12,530 --> 00:16:14,290 Are you sure that's what he said? 274 00:16:14,490 --> 00:16:15,330 He didn't have to. 275 00:16:16,810 --> 00:16:18,210 I think he might be right. 276 00:16:21,850 --> 00:16:23,810 What was it Nicola said we should do again? 277 00:16:25,250 --> 00:16:27,090 Try talking to each other the way we would 278 00:16:27,190 --> 00:16:28,590 talk to Joe if he could understand. 279 00:16:28,690 --> 00:16:33,970 All right, well, you'd better start, then. I'll join in at the chorus. 280 00:16:35,770 --> 00:16:39,690 So, Joe, you know that word you used? 281 00:16:45,770 --> 00:16:47,290 Is that what I think it is? 282 00:16:49,050 --> 00:16:53,250 Yep. But I'm afraid to say it out loud. 283 00:16:55,250 --> 00:16:57,530 We should have got her that futon she wanted. 284 00:17:20,450 --> 00:17:21,890 She went straight off. 285 00:17:25,130 --> 00:17:26,410 Good as gold. 286 00:17:33,370 --> 00:17:37,010 This is mad. I realise it's a difficult situation, 287 00:17:37,210 --> 00:17:39,970 but I think now the subterfuge has begun, 288 00:17:40,170 --> 00:17:42,930 it'd be even worse if we told them the truth. 289 00:17:43,130 --> 00:17:44,450 So I have to cancel t'ai chi 290 00:17:44,650 --> 00:17:48,210 and then humiliate myself to save you from feelings of embarrassment? 291 00:17:48,410 --> 00:17:49,730 Thank you for understanding. 292 00:17:54,530 --> 00:17:55,930 Strange, isn't it? 293 00:17:56,130 --> 00:17:58,830 You have seen me undress a thousand times 294 00:17:59,030 --> 00:18:01,730 and I have seen you undress a thousand times. 295 00:18:01,930 --> 00:18:03,050 But this feels uncomfortable 296 00:18:03,250 --> 00:18:06,810 because a previous intimacy has now been abandoned. 297 00:18:07,010 --> 00:18:07,770 Just so we're clear. 298 00:18:07,970 --> 00:18:11,330 You saying "undress" over and over really isn't helping much. 299 00:18:11,530 --> 00:18:14,490 You have watched me defecate whilst giving birth. 300 00:18:14,690 --> 00:18:17,650 I pretty much think we have nothing left to hide. 301 00:18:17,850 --> 00:18:20,050 I saw you defecate. I didn't watch. 302 00:18:20,250 --> 00:18:22,210 There's a crucial difference. 303 00:18:35,410 --> 00:18:37,610 Have to give you bigger portions next time. 304 00:18:38,770 --> 00:18:40,010 At the gastropub. 305 00:18:41,650 --> 00:18:43,170 Still got an appetite? 306 00:18:43,370 --> 00:18:44,690 For food. I meant. 307 00:18:44,890 --> 00:18:46,850 No, just, erm, just thirsty. 308 00:18:48,210 --> 00:18:49,450 I'll bet. Hm? 309 00:18:49,650 --> 00:18:50,890 Help yourself. 310 00:18:52,690 --> 00:18:54,650 You don't have, erm, any energy drinks 311 00:18:54,850 --> 00:18:57,650 or anything like that, do you? No energy drinks, no. 312 00:18:57,850 --> 00:18:59,330 Plenty of milk, though. 313 00:18:59,530 --> 00:19:01,130 Make yourself a Horlicks, if you like. 314 00:19:01,330 --> 00:19:03,970 Although you might want to put some clothes on before you do. 315 00:19:04,170 --> 00:19:06,810 Hot milk and bell ends are an accident waiting to happen. 316 00:19:37,210 --> 00:19:41,410 Anyone I know? What are you doing? It's two o'clock in the morning. 317 00:19:41,610 --> 00:19:42,570 Nervous tension. 318 00:19:45,330 --> 00:19:50,290 He's got a tattoo with Becky's name on it. Is it spelt right? 319 00:20:07,530 --> 00:20:09,770 Don't think he's got much of a sense of humour. 320 00:20:09,970 --> 00:20:12,130 Cos he doesn't laugh at your jokes? 321 00:20:12,330 --> 00:20:14,490 No further questions, your honour. 322 00:20:30,930 --> 00:20:33,810 Sorry. You don't mind, do you? 323 00:20:34,010 --> 00:20:36,890 No. Of Course not. Course not. 324 00:20:49,330 --> 00:20:50,490 Are you awake? 325 00:20:51,570 --> 00:20:52,770 Yeah. 326 00:20:57,410 --> 00:20:59,710 When you said "autistic", Joe, 327 00:20:59,910 --> 00:21:02,210 what do you think that word means? 328 00:21:03,970 --> 00:21:06,290 What do you think it means? 329 00:21:06,490 --> 00:21:09,170 Come on, Paul. Stop dicking around. I'm not. 330 00:21:09,370 --> 00:21:12,210 I'm not, because that is what he's going to say, isn't it? 331 00:21:12,410 --> 00:21:14,610 Because he doesn't know what it means. OK. 332 00:21:14,810 --> 00:21:15,690 Neither does anybody. 333 00:21:15,890 --> 00:21:18,130 OK. I'm sorry. Fair enough. Fair enough. 334 00:21:20,610 --> 00:21:23,930 Can you just, say what, what you think he might say. 335 00:21:30,770 --> 00:21:31,890 Er... 336 00:21:34,850 --> 00:21:36,290 I don't know what it means. 337 00:21:38,010 --> 00:21:40,050 But people keep using it about me. 338 00:21:40,250 --> 00:21:47,210 So I think it's got something to do with me and it might mean 339 00:21:47,410 --> 00:21:49,850 that I don't play football like the other boys... 340 00:21:52,530 --> 00:21:56,050 ..and I go and play my music any time I can, 341 00:21:56,250 --> 00:21:59,770 and I like remembering songs and...and bands. 342 00:22:03,850 --> 00:22:06,890 And sometimes you get annoyed with me 343 00:22:07,090 --> 00:22:11,170 and you talk through your teeth and you say "I'm fine" - 344 00:22:11,370 --> 00:22:13,490 and that's how I know that you're annoyed with me. 345 00:22:17,370 --> 00:22:18,650 And you love me. 346 00:22:18,850 --> 00:22:21,170 And you think I'm the best boy in the world. 347 00:22:25,690 --> 00:22:27,050 And it's just a word. 348 00:22:31,330 --> 00:22:34,050 It's just a word and I'm going to have to get used to it. 349 00:22:38,730 --> 00:22:41,010 Is there anything that you want to ask me now? 350 00:22:43,130 --> 00:22:46,330 What do you think it means? Me being autistic. 351 00:22:46,530 --> 00:22:47,930 He'd never ask that. 352 00:22:48,130 --> 00:22:49,010 No, I know. 353 00:22:52,890 --> 00:22:57,530 What do you see when you see me, huh? Mum? 354 00:23:03,170 --> 00:23:04,850 I see a puzzle that I love. 355 00:23:07,010 --> 00:23:09,530 A boy I thought was one thing and turned out to be another. 356 00:23:13,410 --> 00:23:16,490 And I see a boy that sometimes has difficulties 357 00:23:16,690 --> 00:23:18,530 making himself understood. 358 00:23:20,730 --> 00:23:22,810 Half in and half out of the world. 359 00:23:25,570 --> 00:23:28,010 We all have secrets and... 360 00:23:28,210 --> 00:23:31,690 and hidden feelings, but yours are buried deeper, maybe. 361 00:23:34,930 --> 00:23:37,650 And I see a boy who we might look after all our lives. 362 00:23:40,410 --> 00:23:44,250 A boy that's loved, but might never find love with anybody else. 363 00:23:44,450 --> 00:23:46,570 And that's... Sometimes that's hard for your mum and dad. 364 00:23:48,450 --> 00:23:51,890 And maybe sometimes that makes it hard for you because... 365 00:23:52,090 --> 00:23:53,770 sometimes you can see that in us... 366 00:23:56,130 --> 00:23:57,250 ..the panic. 367 00:24:20,130 --> 00:24:21,570 # No, I sent you that letter 368 00:24:21,770 --> 00:24:24,770 # To ask you if the end was worth the means 369 00:24:24,970 --> 00:24:27,370 # Was there really no in-between? 370 00:24:30,450 --> 00:24:31,810 # And I still don't feel better 371 00:24:32,010 --> 00:24:35,410 # I just wondered if it could be like before 372 00:24:35,610 --> 00:24:38,090 # And I think you just made me sure 373 00:24:39,410 --> 00:24:40,690 # But that's typically you 374 00:24:40,890 --> 00:24:43,390 # And I might have been a bit rude 375 00:24:43,590 --> 00:24:46,090 # But I wrote it in a bad mood 376 00:24:49,210 --> 00:24:51,250 # I'm not being funny with you 377 00:24:51,450 --> 00:24:53,290 # But it's hard to be engaging 378 00:24:53,490 --> 00:24:56,010 # When the things you love keep changing 379 00:25:02,250 --> 00:25:03,570 # Brassneck! 380 00:25:07,410 --> 00:25:08,770 # Brassneck! 381 00:25:10,570 --> 00:25:14,250 # I just decided I don't trust you any more 382 00:25:14,450 --> 00:25:18,650 # I just decided I don't trust you any more... # 383 00:25:20,650 --> 00:25:22,410 Vardy. Leicester City. 384 00:25:26,450 --> 00:25:28,690 Vardy. Leicester City. 385 00:25:28,890 --> 00:25:31,770 Rashford. Manchester United. 386 00:25:33,730 --> 00:25:37,450 Rashford. Manchester United. 387 00:25:38,770 --> 00:25:40,530 Who's your favourite player? 388 00:25:43,650 --> 00:25:46,770 Sorry to interrupt, guys, I just need to get to the kettle. 389 00:25:46,970 --> 00:25:48,690 Sorry. What do you think, Joe? 390 00:25:48,890 --> 00:25:50,650 Manchester United. 391 00:25:50,850 --> 00:25:53,130 No, no, no, no, no. That's your favourite team. 392 00:25:53,330 --> 00:25:55,650 Marcus Rashford is your favourite player. 393 00:25:55,850 --> 00:25:59,170 Right, go and get your stuff and I'll test you again on the way. 394 00:26:00,450 --> 00:26:04,050 You said it. Last night. The panic he feels in us. 395 00:26:04,250 --> 00:26:06,090 He worries that he doesn't fit in. 396 00:26:06,290 --> 00:26:08,130 And this might be a way that he can. 397 00:26:09,170 --> 00:26:10,850 He doesn't like football. 398 00:26:11,050 --> 00:26:14,450 It doesn't matter. Football cards. Dates. Stats. 399 00:26:14,650 --> 00:26:15,450 It plays to his strengths. 400 00:26:15,650 --> 00:26:17,370 It's all the other lads talk about. 401 00:26:17,570 --> 00:26:19,090 It's got to be worth a try, hasn't it? 402 00:26:19,290 --> 00:26:21,370 I thought we were trying to work out how to talk to him. 403 00:26:21,570 --> 00:26:24,610 We are. And we will. But this is something we can do right now. 404 00:26:28,210 --> 00:26:29,530 Arms up! 405 00:26:31,010 --> 00:26:32,210 Favourite player? 406 00:26:33,570 --> 00:26:34,770 Marcus Rashford. 407 00:26:38,890 --> 00:26:41,410 Stewed apple for pudding. No more sweet things. 408 00:26:41,610 --> 00:26:42,730 Her or me? 409 00:26:42,930 --> 00:26:43,890 Both! 410 00:26:44,090 --> 00:26:49,770 According to my thermometer, Emily should be having her breakfast. 411 00:26:52,050 --> 00:26:53,210 This is ridiculous. 412 00:26:53,410 --> 00:26:55,370 Really? I think it suits you. 413 00:26:55,570 --> 00:26:56,650 We are adults. 414 00:26:56,850 --> 00:26:59,170 And I know your reasons for lying to your mum and dad... 415 00:26:59,370 --> 00:27:00,910 For not telling them the truth. 416 00:27:01,110 --> 00:27:02,650 Shall we just settle on misleading? 417 00:27:02,850 --> 00:27:03,810 Go on. 418 00:27:04,010 --> 00:27:06,430 Well, whatever your reasons, we can't go on like this. 419 00:27:06,630 --> 00:27:08,850 Not least because this one will soon be able to talk 420 00:27:09,050 --> 00:27:12,010 and when she does, she might just mention the fact that Mummy 421 00:27:12,210 --> 00:27:15,770 and Daddy live in separate houses - in separate cities. 422 00:27:15,970 --> 00:27:17,810 She might be a late talker. 423 00:27:18,010 --> 00:27:21,610 We sit down and we tell them. Now. Agreed? 424 00:27:26,130 --> 00:27:29,330 Your mother and I. We have some news for you. 425 00:27:31,050 --> 00:27:33,730 Typical. How did you guess? 426 00:27:35,130 --> 00:27:38,570 Guess what? You both smiled as though you'd guessed. 427 00:27:38,770 --> 00:27:39,490 What's the news? 428 00:27:39,690 --> 00:27:42,170 You tell us. You've clearly guessed. 429 00:27:42,370 --> 00:27:43,250 Nobody's guessed. 430 00:27:43,450 --> 00:27:45,890 The reason that Nicola was 431 00:27:46,090 --> 00:27:50,210 looking at you like that is that we have some news of our own. 432 00:27:50,410 --> 00:27:52,810 We're splitting up. A trial separation. 433 00:27:53,010 --> 00:27:54,810 It's permanent. It's mutual. 434 00:27:55,010 --> 00:27:56,450 I'm leaving him. 435 00:27:56,650 --> 00:27:58,070 There's nobody else. 436 00:27:58,270 --> 00:27:59,690 He had an affair. 437 00:28:01,410 --> 00:28:02,890 It's amicable. I hate him. 438 00:28:06,650 --> 00:28:09,690 Right. Favourite player. 439 00:28:11,730 --> 00:28:12,730 Marcus Rashford. 440 00:28:12,930 --> 00:28:14,190 Who does he play for? 441 00:28:14,390 --> 00:28:15,720 Manchester United. 442 00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:17,050 Brilliant. Brilliant. 443 00:28:17,250 --> 00:28:21,250 So if any of the lads ask about football, that's what you say. 444 00:28:21,450 --> 00:28:23,290 All right? Top lad? 445 00:28:23,490 --> 00:28:26,410 Top lad. Hair set to handsome. 446 00:28:26,610 --> 00:28:28,330 Hair set to handsome. 447 00:28:30,010 --> 00:28:31,370 Off you go, mucker. 448 00:28:55,970 --> 00:28:59,830 It's touching that Eddie comes back so often to attempt the impossible. 449 00:29:00,230 --> 00:29:03,530 Eddie explaining and Maurice not listening is the only way 450 00:29:03,730 --> 00:29:06,930 father and son can express their love. 451 00:29:08,370 --> 00:29:10,570 I can see that Vincent might be a bit of a handful, 452 00:29:10,770 --> 00:29:12,850 but it's a big decision to make at their age. 453 00:29:13,050 --> 00:29:14,430 Certainly surprising. 454 00:29:14,630 --> 00:29:16,010 Has somebody thrown this? 455 00:29:17,730 --> 00:29:20,370 Big decision to make at any age come to that. 456 00:29:20,570 --> 00:29:21,490 Indeed. 457 00:29:21,690 --> 00:29:23,010 Which is why I appreciate you being supportive 458 00:29:23,110 --> 00:29:25,010 of my indecision over the years. 459 00:29:25,210 --> 00:29:26,290 Is that's what you call it? 460 00:29:26,490 --> 00:29:28,530 You two have had more reunions than Take That. 461 00:29:28,730 --> 00:29:30,090 No more. Then why lie to her mam and dad? 462 00:29:30,290 --> 00:29:33,530 Because last time she told them, they gave her so much grief. 463 00:29:33,730 --> 00:29:35,050 Wake up and smell the laundry. 464 00:29:35,250 --> 00:29:38,130 Nicola doesn't want to admit to herself that it's over. 465 00:29:38,330 --> 00:29:40,170 Dad, I have a new life in Manchester. 466 00:29:40,370 --> 00:29:41,970 New, maybe. I doubt it's a life. 467 00:29:44,170 --> 00:29:45,990 Hello, Ralph. How you doing? 468 00:29:46,190 --> 00:29:47,980 Is that job still going? 469 00:29:48,180 --> 00:29:49,970 Brewery Assistant? Yeah. 470 00:29:50,170 --> 00:29:51,130 Can I apply? 471 00:29:52,450 --> 00:29:56,290 'Course you can. 'Course you can. I'll get you the application form. 472 00:30:00,410 --> 00:30:01,970 No need to look so nervous. 473 00:30:02,170 --> 00:30:04,730 Don't worry, Ralph. He makes me nervous, too. 474 00:30:04,930 --> 00:30:06,290 Don't tell my mum about this. 475 00:30:06,490 --> 00:30:09,390 Fat chance of me having a conversation with your mum. 476 00:30:09,590 --> 00:30:12,960 All right. I won't do, not if you don't want me to. 477 00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:15,925 Has she said she don't want you working with me? 478 00:30:16,125 --> 00:30:18,890 Has she said she's got a problem with me, like? 479 00:30:19,090 --> 00:30:21,010 No. But she's not good with change. 480 00:30:26,770 --> 00:30:29,130 What? "Has your mum said anything about me? 481 00:30:29,330 --> 00:30:31,290 "Does she ever talk about me at all?" 482 00:30:31,490 --> 00:30:32,410 # I want you back 483 00:30:32,610 --> 00:30:34,570 # I want you back... # Oh, give over. 484 00:30:34,770 --> 00:30:36,130 I was looking after Ralph. 485 00:30:36,330 --> 00:30:40,290 "Perhaps you just don't want to admit to yourself that it's over." 486 00:30:47,850 --> 00:30:51,410 First one to tell me the first sound they heard this morning? 487 00:30:52,690 --> 00:30:54,210 Maisie? A bird singing. 488 00:30:54,410 --> 00:30:56,970 Very good. Maisie's table can go. 489 00:30:58,490 --> 00:31:02,330 What sound did you hear this morning, Joe? Can you remember? 490 00:31:05,770 --> 00:31:06,810 Ramesh? 491 00:31:07,010 --> 00:31:10,090 A car. Probably diesel because of the sound of the engine. 492 00:31:10,290 --> 00:31:12,090 Very good. Ramesh's table can go. 493 00:31:13,330 --> 00:31:14,410 Joe? 494 00:31:17,210 --> 00:31:19,930 What sound did you hear, Joe? Can you remember? 495 00:31:20,130 --> 00:31:22,850 What did you hear, Joe? Just tell Miss! Tell her. 496 00:31:24,650 --> 00:31:26,170 Can you think of anything? 497 00:31:29,770 --> 00:31:31,170 Miss! Miss! 498 00:31:32,650 --> 00:31:34,370 Was it a lamb bleating, Joe? 499 00:31:34,570 --> 00:31:39,050 "Bleating". Good word, Ella. Joe's table can go. 500 00:32:00,090 --> 00:32:05,290 I've got Theo Walcott, Robert Snodgrass and John O'Shea. 501 00:32:05,490 --> 00:32:07,850 John O'Shea? Have you got Peter Crouch? 502 00:32:08,050 --> 00:32:10,410 Yeah. My dad says he's just a beanpole. 503 00:32:10,610 --> 00:32:14,530 Joe. Joe. What've you got? Hey? 504 00:32:19,850 --> 00:32:21,410 Got any swaps? 505 00:32:21,610 --> 00:32:23,170 Let me see now. 506 00:32:26,050 --> 00:32:27,250 I don't think so. 507 00:32:28,810 --> 00:32:31,090 Who's your favourite player? 508 00:32:31,290 --> 00:32:33,330 Is it Aguero? Sterling? 509 00:32:33,530 --> 00:32:34,970 Who's your favourite player, Joe? 510 00:32:35,170 --> 00:32:37,850 Who does he play for? Chelsea? Or Spurs. 511 00:32:38,050 --> 00:32:39,770 You've got to have a favourite. 512 00:32:41,570 --> 00:32:42,850 Marty. 513 00:32:43,050 --> 00:32:46,050 Marty the Zebra. Madagascar. 514 00:32:49,090 --> 00:32:50,010 Eden Hazard. 515 00:32:50,210 --> 00:32:52,190 I gave you that yesterday. Didn't. 516 00:32:52,390 --> 00:32:54,370 Anyway, Harry Kane is better... 517 00:32:55,490 --> 00:32:57,850 # There she goes 518 00:32:58,050 --> 00:33:02,450 # There she goes again 519 00:33:02,650 --> 00:33:06,210 # Racing through my brain 520 00:33:06,410 --> 00:33:10,390 # And I just can't complain 521 00:33:10,590 --> 00:33:14,570 # This feeling that remains 522 00:33:16,810 --> 00:33:19,810 # There she goes 523 00:33:20,010 --> 00:33:23,170 # There she goes again 524 00:33:24,770 --> 00:33:28,250 # Pulsing through my vein... # 525 00:33:30,130 --> 00:33:32,250 Oi! Why can't you keep an eye on your ladders? 526 00:33:32,450 --> 00:33:34,010 Don't blame me cos you can't control your own kid. 527 00:33:34,210 --> 00:33:36,010 What? What did you say? 528 00:33:36,210 --> 00:33:37,490 Paul! 529 00:33:37,690 --> 00:33:40,230 - I think you and I need a word. - What were you thinking! 530 00:33:40,530 --> 00:33:41,330 Joe's dad has every right to be angry. 531 00:33:41,530 --> 00:33:43,090 Oh, God, are you all right? 532 00:33:43,290 --> 00:33:45,770 Did you touch any moss up there? Or leaves? 533 00:33:45,970 --> 00:33:47,050 I'm so sorry, Sarah. 534 00:33:47,250 --> 00:33:48,810 He's never been good with heights. 535 00:33:49,010 --> 00:33:51,490 I don't know how they let Joe get up there again. 536 00:33:51,690 --> 00:33:53,970 I dare say he'll need an anti-histamine what with all 537 00:33:54,170 --> 00:33:57,810 the excitement and dust, of course, but that's not your concern. 538 00:33:58,010 --> 00:33:59,810 Ah, you're all right, aren't you, Bill? 539 00:34:00,010 --> 00:34:01,610 You're tough as old boots, eh! 540 00:34:01,810 --> 00:34:05,090 I know you mean well, Alison. He could've fallen. 541 00:34:05,290 --> 00:34:07,130 And hit his head. They both could. 542 00:34:07,330 --> 00:34:11,490 And I don't know how to say this, cos Joe is a lovely boy, but... 543 00:34:11,690 --> 00:34:13,690 But what? When things like this happen, 544 00:34:13,890 --> 00:34:16,250 it's always Joe that they happen to, isn't it? Really? 545 00:34:16,450 --> 00:34:18,370 I see. I didn't know you felt like that. 546 00:34:18,570 --> 00:34:20,490 No other parent would be different. Sorry. 547 00:34:34,330 --> 00:34:38,170 I know it's good up here, mate, but this has got to stop. 548 00:34:42,490 --> 00:34:46,810 Marcus Rashford, Manchester United. 549 00:34:58,130 --> 00:35:00,810 I can only apologise that this has been allowed to happen again. 550 00:35:01,010 --> 00:35:04,410 Well, at least Joe had a mate up there with him this time, 551 00:35:04,610 --> 00:35:05,770 it's kind of progress, isn't it? 552 00:35:05,970 --> 00:35:07,330 I know we like to see the light side, 553 00:35:07,530 --> 00:35:10,330 but he did set his mind on getting up there again and found a way. 554 00:35:10,530 --> 00:35:12,610 I worry what he might do next. Hang on. 555 00:35:12,810 --> 00:35:15,210 He isn't the only kid to have had an odd bad day. 556 00:35:15,410 --> 00:35:17,970 Well, his bad days used to be once a term, then once a week, 557 00:35:18,070 --> 00:35:19,770 but now they're every other day. 558 00:35:19,970 --> 00:35:21,650 I do think that some of the children get upset 559 00:35:21,850 --> 00:35:24,850 by some of Joe's behaviour, so that doesn't help him integrate. 560 00:35:25,050 --> 00:35:26,870 The children have told you that, have they? 561 00:35:27,070 --> 00:35:28,890 We've had feedback from some of the parents. 562 00:35:29,090 --> 00:35:30,610 I think I can guess which ones. 563 00:35:30,810 --> 00:35:33,770 We love Joe, we can handle Joe. The question 564 00:35:33,970 --> 00:35:36,930 is whether Joe can handle this school any more. 565 00:35:37,130 --> 00:35:38,530 I'll come in and talk to the parents. 566 00:35:38,730 --> 00:35:40,250 Reassure them that there's nothing to worry about. 567 00:35:40,350 --> 00:35:42,450 Paul and I are happy to do that. 568 00:35:42,650 --> 00:35:43,770 Yeah... 569 00:35:50,010 --> 00:35:51,570 What are we going to say to the parents? 570 00:35:51,770 --> 00:35:52,570 I haven't a clue. 571 00:35:52,770 --> 00:35:55,490 Which is why we're going to talk to people at the support group. 572 00:35:55,690 --> 00:35:57,450 I don't know if I can get cover tonight. 573 00:35:57,650 --> 00:36:01,370 Come on. They're just people in the same boat as us. 574 00:36:01,570 --> 00:36:02,810 People that've been through it. 575 00:36:03,010 --> 00:36:05,330 And not a Fred Perry T-shirt between them. 576 00:36:05,530 --> 00:36:06,290 What? 577 00:36:06,490 --> 00:36:08,410 It's all a bit hand-knitted and cords. 578 00:36:08,610 --> 00:36:11,770 Are you serious? I'm sorry, it... it's the group thing. I... 579 00:36:11,970 --> 00:36:14,570 Right, but you're perfectly happy to go to Old Trafford 580 00:36:14,770 --> 00:36:17,370 with 65,000 strangers and chant inanely for two hours. 581 00:36:17,570 --> 00:36:19,450 I'll see you there. 7.30. 582 00:36:31,690 --> 00:36:33,490 It doesn't make any sense. 583 00:36:34,570 --> 00:36:36,070 I just don't see the point of you separating 584 00:36:36,170 --> 00:36:37,570 at this stage of your lives. 585 00:36:37,770 --> 00:36:40,450 Because we're so close to death, you mean. 586 00:36:40,650 --> 00:36:41,730 Partly, yeah. 587 00:36:44,410 --> 00:36:47,770 We should've broken up years ago, He's always been the same. 588 00:36:47,970 --> 00:36:49,530 So it serves me right, really. 589 00:36:49,730 --> 00:36:51,210 And, then, in the end is it better to 590 00:36:51,410 --> 00:36:54,930 struggle on in a relationship or struggle on outside a relationship? 591 00:36:55,130 --> 00:36:56,970 In the end, it's all a struggle. 592 00:36:57,170 --> 00:36:59,950 Well, you know better than anyone. 593 00:37:00,150 --> 00:37:02,730 Me? Is that why you made me cake? 594 00:37:02,930 --> 00:37:06,150 So you can tell me you think I'm struggling? 595 00:37:06,350 --> 00:37:09,570 I know it. And you hide it. Like I hide it. 596 00:37:10,650 --> 00:37:12,250 To be fair, I knew, too. 597 00:37:13,370 --> 00:37:14,770 Sorry. Sorry. 598 00:37:14,970 --> 00:37:16,930 Welcome. Welcome, one and all. 599 00:37:17,130 --> 00:37:18,090 Did you follow me? 600 00:37:18,290 --> 00:37:20,000 I just wanted to tell my daughter that I don't want this. 601 00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:21,910 You should have thought of that before you slept with 602 00:37:22,010 --> 00:37:25,110 - half the congregation. - Oh, Mum, please! 603 00:37:25,310 --> 00:37:27,250 - What? - This explains so much. 604 00:37:27,450 --> 00:37:29,290 And I want a word with you, Dr Graves. 605 00:37:29,490 --> 00:37:32,490 Why are you pushing my daughter all hours when she has a baby at home? 606 00:37:32,690 --> 00:37:33,950 Don't blame me. I have tried to challenge 607 00:37:34,050 --> 00:37:35,850 her dedication at every juncture, 608 00:37:36,050 --> 00:37:38,330 but it's almost as if she enjoys the job. 609 00:37:42,450 --> 00:37:45,730 Tomorrow? We said a few days. It's been a few days. 610 00:37:45,930 --> 00:37:49,190 Two days. Why are you so keen to get away? 611 00:37:49,390 --> 00:37:52,650 Look at it. And it smells of animals and rain. 612 00:37:52,850 --> 00:37:53,890 So did most of Africa. 613 00:37:54,090 --> 00:37:57,410 Africa had heat, had mystery. 614 00:37:57,610 --> 00:38:00,910 There's a nightclub in Keswick that's pretty mysterious. 615 00:38:01,110 --> 00:38:04,410 Look, all I want is for us to get back to what it was like 616 00:38:04,610 --> 00:38:05,690 when it was just us. 617 00:38:05,890 --> 00:38:07,050 You know? 618 00:38:10,730 --> 00:38:13,890 It was lovely. It is lovely. 619 00:38:14,090 --> 00:38:17,170 But, well, I've not seen any of my school mates yet 620 00:38:17,370 --> 00:38:19,170 and I've hardly spent any time with Joe. 621 00:38:19,370 --> 00:38:21,130 Joe won't mind. Will you, Joe? 622 00:38:25,170 --> 00:38:26,370 See. He doesn't mind. 623 00:38:26,570 --> 00:38:27,750 Don't do that. Do what? 624 00:38:27,950 --> 00:38:29,130 You were making fun of him. 625 00:38:29,330 --> 00:38:30,010 No, I wasn't. 626 00:38:30,210 --> 00:38:31,810 It felt like you were. 627 00:38:32,010 --> 00:38:32,930 Well, I wasn't. 628 00:38:34,330 --> 00:38:36,710 Not the good suitcase. Haven't you put me through enough? 629 00:38:36,910 --> 00:38:39,290 After 30 years of marriage, I think at least I deserve that! 630 00:38:39,490 --> 00:38:40,330 Mum! 631 00:38:42,770 --> 00:38:44,050 Look after yourself. 632 00:38:46,130 --> 00:38:47,170 You too. 633 00:38:49,050 --> 00:38:50,490 Your dad's a liar. 634 00:38:50,690 --> 00:38:52,130 He can't help it. 635 00:38:52,330 --> 00:38:53,490 I know. 636 00:39:06,810 --> 00:39:10,250 So, do you want me to order you your own taxi, Vincent? 637 00:39:10,450 --> 00:39:12,370 Or have you already arranged that? 638 00:39:12,570 --> 00:39:15,610 No. No. I feel I should stay here for a few days. 639 00:39:15,810 --> 00:39:18,690 What? Sorry, Dad. That's not convenient. 640 00:39:18,890 --> 00:39:21,410 Why? Because you and Eddie will have to pretend 641 00:39:21,610 --> 00:39:24,690 you're still together until I'm gone. Is that what's bothering you? 642 00:39:24,890 --> 00:39:26,530 I'm not stupid, Nicola. 643 00:39:46,330 --> 00:39:47,810 Thanks for this, Alison. 644 00:39:48,010 --> 00:39:51,530 My brain just goes to mush when I have to fill in a form. 645 00:39:51,730 --> 00:39:52,810 No problem. I actually enjoy it. 646 00:39:53,010 --> 00:39:55,290 I was that girl at school that used to colour code her notes. 647 00:39:55,490 --> 00:39:59,770 Really? I'd never have guessed. Bet you ironed your pants as well. 648 00:40:01,850 --> 00:40:04,450 I need to talk to Alison. You sit here with Jan. 649 00:40:04,650 --> 00:40:07,490 We have tea and biscuits. We go home on the bus. 650 00:40:07,690 --> 00:40:10,250 You need to talk to Alison. I sit here with Jan. 651 00:40:10,450 --> 00:40:13,010 We have tea and biscuits. We go home on the bus. 652 00:40:13,210 --> 00:40:15,090 Yep. Correct. All right? 653 00:40:15,290 --> 00:40:16,250 It's all right. 654 00:40:17,490 --> 00:40:18,330 OK? 655 00:40:18,530 --> 00:40:20,090 Yeah, yeah. He'll be fine now. 656 00:40:20,290 --> 00:40:21,370 Cool, OK, so... 657 00:40:21,570 --> 00:40:23,730 this one is all done, this one is all done... 658 00:40:30,770 --> 00:40:33,290 You know, when I first told our Mark he was autistic, 659 00:40:33,490 --> 00:40:34,210 he was relieved. 660 00:40:34,410 --> 00:40:37,010 He said he thought he didn't have any mates at school 661 00:40:37,210 --> 00:40:38,010 because he was ugly. 662 00:40:38,210 --> 00:40:41,890 Oh, God. When I told the other parents, they ran a mile. 663 00:40:42,090 --> 00:40:43,370 Now, they were ugly. 664 00:40:43,570 --> 00:40:46,490 So, do you think I shouldn't bother talking to the parents? 665 00:40:46,690 --> 00:40:48,570 I'm just not sure it's where you should be 666 00:40:48,770 --> 00:40:50,290 putting your energies right now. 667 00:40:50,490 --> 00:40:51,370 It's only if it helps Joe. 668 00:40:51,570 --> 00:40:53,930 If it helps Joe? And how's that working out? 669 00:40:54,130 --> 00:40:56,530 Cos it doesn't seem to me like the behaviour of a kid 670 00:40:56,730 --> 00:40:58,610 who's happy to be at the school he's at. 671 00:41:00,130 --> 00:41:03,130 We always said that he would go mainstream and local. 672 00:41:04,130 --> 00:41:06,370 I mean we're... We're doing all this to get your Mark 673 00:41:06,570 --> 00:41:07,490 back into mainstream. 674 00:41:07,690 --> 00:41:11,250 Because that's what Mark wants. It's what he tells us he wants. 675 00:41:12,250 --> 00:41:15,050 And he's 16. And six foot three. 676 00:41:20,850 --> 00:41:22,930 Sorry! Ah! Sorry. 677 00:41:23,130 --> 00:41:25,370 Sophie, this is my husband, Paul. Oh, hi! 678 00:41:25,570 --> 00:41:28,130 Hello. How are you? All right? Paul, this is Mark. 679 00:41:28,330 --> 00:41:29,750 Hello, Mark. 680 00:41:29,950 --> 00:41:31,170 Hello, hello. 681 00:41:31,370 --> 00:41:33,570 This is Sophie, she's your new waitress. 682 00:41:33,770 --> 00:41:35,050 What? 683 00:41:36,090 --> 00:41:38,610 You need a part-time job and Paul needs the help. 684 00:41:38,810 --> 00:41:42,090 Because, as you can see, he can't even make it to one meeting on time. 685 00:41:42,290 --> 00:41:45,330 Wow. Er, thanks. I don't know what hours I could do. 686 00:41:45,530 --> 00:41:48,570 Oh, Paul'll sort that. He's really flexible like that. 687 00:41:48,770 --> 00:41:50,170 She's a hard woman to say no to. 688 00:41:50,370 --> 00:41:51,170 Oh, I'm aware of that. 689 00:41:51,370 --> 00:41:54,210 Also, Sophie was looking for someone to drive her 690 00:41:54,410 --> 00:41:57,010 and Mark to gigs now and then so I thought you'd be up for that. 691 00:41:57,210 --> 00:41:59,050 You don't have to, if you don't want to... 692 00:41:59,250 --> 00:42:01,090 'Course he wants to. Mark's into indie. 693 00:42:01,290 --> 00:42:02,570 Is he? Yeah. 694 00:42:02,770 --> 00:42:04,490 What bands you into, Mark? 695 00:42:06,970 --> 00:42:10,690 I can't drive, you see, so it makes things difficult and, erm, yeah, 696 00:42:10,890 --> 00:42:12,090 Mark loves a live band. 697 00:42:12,290 --> 00:42:13,610 How's your waitressing? 698 00:42:13,810 --> 00:42:15,130 Worse than my driving. 699 00:42:16,930 --> 00:42:17,890 Thank you. 700 00:42:18,090 --> 00:42:20,690 You're welcome! So welcome. Thank you for tonight. 701 00:42:20,890 --> 00:42:22,010 Safe home! 702 00:42:22,210 --> 00:42:25,730 Yeah, yeah. Nice to meet you. Bye, Mark. See you at work. See you soon. 703 00:42:32,130 --> 00:42:33,970 It got mad at the Fellside. 704 00:42:35,330 --> 00:42:37,910 Really did, I was going to...try and get away earlier, 705 00:42:38,110 --> 00:42:40,490 but I couldn't, I just... No, no, you didn't try, Paul. 706 00:42:40,690 --> 00:42:45,170 You sat outside in the car for two hours. Not coming in. I saw you. 707 00:42:49,610 --> 00:42:52,090 So that's what the Sophie thing was about, was it? 708 00:42:52,290 --> 00:42:54,170 Eh, stitching me up to give her a job. 709 00:42:54,370 --> 00:42:59,050 No. No, that was about helping her out because she helped me. 710 00:42:59,250 --> 00:43:01,330 It's called supporting each other. 711 00:43:01,530 --> 00:43:05,130 It's what people do when they're all in the same boat, 712 00:43:05,330 --> 00:43:07,090 bringing up a child that's different. 713 00:43:07,290 --> 00:43:09,090 Well, I couldn't, I'm sorry. 714 00:43:10,410 --> 00:43:11,770 Is that it? 715 00:43:11,970 --> 00:43:14,930 I couldn't go in. I don't know why. I just couldn't, OK? 716 00:43:24,170 --> 00:43:26,730 OK. Let's just say that Joe understands 717 00:43:26,930 --> 00:43:29,070 what autistic means. Except that he doesn't, 718 00:43:29,170 --> 00:43:29,970 not really. Cos none of us do. 719 00:43:30,170 --> 00:43:34,130 But let's just say that, that he sees some other kids, 720 00:43:34,330 --> 00:43:38,250 more, you know, severely autistic than him. 721 00:43:38,450 --> 00:43:41,490 Now, does he think that that's what autistic means? 722 00:43:41,690 --> 00:43:44,730 Now, does he think that's how the world sees him? 723 00:43:44,930 --> 00:43:45,970 How we see him? 724 00:43:46,170 --> 00:43:48,290 Better that than he thinks it's a bad thing. 725 00:43:48,490 --> 00:43:52,130 Might at least give him a sense of who he is. An identity. 726 00:43:52,330 --> 00:43:55,730 Club Autistic. I bet it's got quite a waiting list. 727 00:43:55,930 --> 00:43:59,690 If it helps to give him a feeling of belonging and support, why not? 728 00:43:59,890 --> 00:44:01,610 But what about our club? 729 00:44:01,810 --> 00:44:07,810 Eh? Me and you and Joe and Rebecca? Isn't that enough? 730 00:44:09,410 --> 00:44:10,890 Not any more, no. 731 00:44:11,090 --> 00:44:14,050 Look, we thought we were doing all right, turns out we weren't. 732 00:44:14,250 --> 00:44:17,370 We need other people. We've always needed other people. 733 00:44:17,570 --> 00:44:18,370 You saw that before I did. 734 00:44:18,570 --> 00:44:22,730 I know. I just... I want to be the one with the magic touch. 735 00:44:23,930 --> 00:44:27,270 With Joe. I just... I could always handle him. 736 00:44:27,470 --> 00:44:30,600 I could always get through to him...in the end. 737 00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:33,930 And it was a struggle, but I could always do it. 738 00:44:34,130 --> 00:44:35,930 And it just... It felt better that way. 739 00:44:42,970 --> 00:44:45,450 No, that's not true, is it? Made me feel better that way. 740 00:44:50,250 --> 00:44:52,930 It's just in the last few months, I feel like I'm losing that. 741 00:44:55,650 --> 00:44:57,250 I feel like I'm losing my boy. 742 00:46:12,130 --> 00:46:14,850 So, first off, thanks, thanks to you and your kids for, 743 00:46:15,050 --> 00:46:17,570 for doing your best to understand him - or at least trying to, 744 00:46:17,770 --> 00:46:21,610 and for putting up with some of the things he does that are a bit... 745 00:46:23,370 --> 00:46:24,930 Well, just out of the ordinary. 746 00:46:26,530 --> 00:46:30,530 I know he can be distracting and, from what I hear these days, 747 00:46:30,730 --> 00:46:32,730 upsetting to some of your children. 748 00:46:32,930 --> 00:46:35,970 I get that the roof and the head banging are new 749 00:46:36,170 --> 00:46:37,730 and they are hard to deal with. 750 00:46:37,930 --> 00:46:39,290 And the running out the classroom. 751 00:46:39,490 --> 00:46:43,130 Yep, that too, yep. But I'm not apologising for Joe. 752 00:46:43,330 --> 00:46:46,490 I know there are a lot of good reasons for him to be here. 753 00:46:46,690 --> 00:46:47,970 Nobody minds him being here at all. 754 00:46:48,170 --> 00:46:50,130 OK, well, another way of thinking about that 755 00:46:50,330 --> 00:46:53,290 is that it's good for your children to have him here. 756 00:46:53,490 --> 00:46:55,570 For them to be around a child that's different, 757 00:46:55,770 --> 00:46:57,650 that has a different way of looking at the world, 758 00:46:57,850 --> 00:47:01,810 that communicates differently, that doesn't much care about, you know, 759 00:47:02,010 --> 00:47:07,130 Sats or peer group approval or, God help us, football cards. 760 00:47:08,650 --> 00:47:09,690 That's a privilege. 761 00:47:10,890 --> 00:47:13,490 So I reckon with the right level of support 762 00:47:13,690 --> 00:47:15,530 and the right attitude, 763 00:47:15,730 --> 00:47:17,890 this school should do all right by children like Joe 764 00:47:18,090 --> 00:47:19,770 and be a better school for having him. 765 00:47:19,970 --> 00:47:25,330 Thanks, Alison. That's lovely, but can we get to specifics? About Joe. 766 00:47:25,530 --> 00:47:28,050 And his behaviour. And what we can do about it. 767 00:47:28,250 --> 00:47:29,810 We could. But we'd be wasting our time. 768 00:47:30,010 --> 00:47:34,210 Because, well, Joe's not going to be coming here for very much longer. 769 00:47:34,410 --> 00:47:38,610 We're going to find a school for him that's a bit more specialist. 770 00:47:38,810 --> 00:47:41,090 It's not going to be easy. But that's what we're going to do. 771 00:47:41,290 --> 00:47:43,120 I don't understand. When did you decide this? 772 00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:45,150 When we realised that we were getting more out 773 00:47:45,250 --> 00:47:47,010 of the idea of him being integrated than he was. 774 00:47:47,210 --> 00:47:48,970 So what's this all about? I thought you were 775 00:47:49,070 --> 00:47:50,480 going to reassure the parents. 776 00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:51,890 I am reassuring the parents. 777 00:47:52,090 --> 00:47:54,490 About the next child like Joe that comes here. 778 00:47:56,210 --> 00:47:57,490 And the one after that... 779 00:48:02,650 --> 00:48:03,690 A special school? 780 00:48:03,890 --> 00:48:06,690 I thought you didn't want him going to a special school. 781 00:48:06,890 --> 00:48:08,010 Well, it's not a special school. 782 00:48:08,210 --> 00:48:11,930 It's, er, an autism unit in an ordinary school. 783 00:48:12,130 --> 00:48:14,690 Well, you're still taking him out of the school he knows. 784 00:48:14,890 --> 00:48:20,610 Well, something needed to be done. We've made the right decision. 785 00:48:20,810 --> 00:48:23,530 Great. Good for you. What you talking to me about it for? 786 00:48:23,730 --> 00:48:24,650 You've always got an opinion. 787 00:48:24,850 --> 00:48:26,970 Well, you've never asked to hear it before. 788 00:48:27,170 --> 00:48:28,450 Well, I'm asking for it now. 789 00:48:31,450 --> 00:48:34,050 I think my opinion giving days are behind me, Paul. 790 00:48:41,010 --> 00:48:43,850 This job that Ralph has applied for with you. 791 00:48:44,050 --> 00:48:45,170 Uh? What job? 792 00:48:45,370 --> 00:48:48,570 He left the application form out, Maurice, so don't mess about. 793 00:48:48,770 --> 00:48:50,130 Has he got any chance of getting it? 794 00:48:50,330 --> 00:48:53,530 Yeah. He's a grafter. He's got a good job record. 795 00:48:53,730 --> 00:48:54,850 We get on. 796 00:48:55,050 --> 00:48:56,570 Well, that's good to hear. 797 00:48:56,770 --> 00:48:59,290 Yeah, he's got a good chance and, er, if he does get it, 798 00:48:59,490 --> 00:49:00,250 he'll get it on merit. 799 00:49:00,450 --> 00:49:03,130 Well, that's great. Just make sure he doesn't, all right? 800 00:49:03,330 --> 00:49:05,090 - What? - Let him do the interview. 801 00:49:05,290 --> 00:49:07,210 But, please, Maurice, don't give him the job. 802 00:49:07,410 --> 00:49:09,110 - What? Why not? - I can't tell you that. I just need you 803 00:49:09,210 --> 00:49:11,810 to promise me that you'll let him come close, 804 00:49:12,010 --> 00:49:12,930 but not get the job in the end. 805 00:49:13,130 --> 00:49:14,970 He's a grown man. He makes his own decisions. 806 00:49:15,170 --> 00:49:18,490 I've got my reasons, I just don't want to go into them with you! 807 00:49:18,690 --> 00:49:19,970 Oh, I get it. 808 00:49:20,970 --> 00:49:22,090 Don't take it out on Ralph, you know, 809 00:49:22,190 --> 00:49:24,490 just cos you've still got a problem with me. 810 00:49:24,690 --> 00:49:26,770 A problem with you? My God. 811 00:49:26,970 --> 00:49:29,590 The view from your ego must be breathtaking. 812 00:49:29,790 --> 00:49:32,410 Hard as it must be for you to believe, Maurice, 813 00:49:32,610 --> 00:49:34,450 this isn't about you, it's about me. 814 00:49:34,650 --> 00:49:37,030 And if what we had or didn't have means anything to you, 815 00:49:37,230 --> 00:49:40,580 then that should be enough for you to do what I ask. 816 00:49:40,780 --> 00:49:44,130 OK. OK. OK. I get the message. He won't get the job. 817 00:49:45,890 --> 00:49:47,170 I promise. 818 00:49:52,130 --> 00:49:53,170 Hiya. 819 00:50:12,130 --> 00:50:13,570 Where's James? 820 00:50:32,890 --> 00:50:33,730 Do you love him? 821 00:50:33,930 --> 00:50:35,090 Of course I love him. 822 00:50:35,290 --> 00:50:37,130 We had tattoos done and everything. 823 00:50:37,330 --> 00:50:38,930 "We"? Oh, wonderful. 824 00:50:39,130 --> 00:50:40,330 Paul. 825 00:50:40,530 --> 00:50:43,450 Look, in fairness to James, it must've been hard to come here 826 00:50:43,650 --> 00:50:45,850 and meet your whole family in one go. 827 00:50:46,050 --> 00:50:47,490 You had all that freedom... 828 00:50:47,690 --> 00:50:50,970 No, it isn't that. It isn't that. Well, it is that. 829 00:50:51,170 --> 00:50:52,930 But it's more... How do you mean? 830 00:50:53,130 --> 00:50:57,650 I know Joe takes a bit of getting used to. It's, like, I don't know, 831 00:50:57,850 --> 00:50:59,890 it's like he's almost afraid of him. 832 00:51:00,090 --> 00:51:02,650 Have you actually asked James about any of this? 833 00:51:02,850 --> 00:51:04,050 No. We're not speaking. 834 00:51:04,250 --> 00:51:09,170 Clearly. Look, stop trying to second guess what James is feeling 835 00:51:09,370 --> 00:51:11,730 and just go and talk to him before it's too late. 836 00:51:11,930 --> 00:51:15,290 Since when did you think talking about feelings was a good idea? 837 00:51:15,490 --> 00:51:17,370 Oh, I don't. I just do it to annoy your dad. 838 00:51:17,570 --> 00:51:19,090 Go on! Get after him. 839 00:51:19,290 --> 00:51:21,950 He might be the love of your life or he might not, 840 00:51:22,150 --> 00:51:24,810 but you need to find out and whatever happens, 841 00:51:25,010 --> 00:51:26,170 we're here for you. 842 00:51:26,370 --> 00:51:28,690 If you're happy, we're happy. 843 00:51:30,810 --> 00:51:32,370 You're becoming all right, you know! 844 00:51:32,570 --> 00:51:33,650 Can I have that in writing? 845 00:51:37,810 --> 00:51:38,930 Just to be clear. 846 00:51:40,050 --> 00:51:43,330 That was the old, "We want you to be happy but, please God, dump him" 847 00:51:43,530 --> 00:51:44,930 tactic you just did then? 848 00:51:45,130 --> 00:51:46,050 Correct. 849 00:51:51,930 --> 00:51:53,650 Vincent, you're still here? 850 00:51:53,850 --> 00:51:56,530 There's not a rail strike I don't know about, is there? 851 00:51:56,730 --> 00:51:57,810 I just need a little time. 852 00:51:58,010 --> 00:52:02,450 You've had a little time. Won't your congregation be missing you? 853 00:52:02,650 --> 00:52:04,810 I've got a new curate. He's stepping in. 854 00:52:05,010 --> 00:52:06,570 He won't even notice I'm gone. 855 00:52:06,770 --> 00:52:09,330 You'll have to go back and face the truth some time. 856 00:52:09,530 --> 00:52:11,050 Nicola's right, Vincent. 857 00:52:11,250 --> 00:52:13,410 Perhaps I'll give it two years like you two did. 858 00:52:14,970 --> 00:52:18,410 I didn't lie, by the way. About my marriage. 859 00:52:18,610 --> 00:52:19,850 I just didn't tell you the truth. 860 00:52:20,050 --> 00:52:22,330 You didn't feel you could tell your own mum and dad? 861 00:52:22,530 --> 00:52:25,570 The last time I told you, I got nothing but judgment from you. 862 00:52:25,770 --> 00:52:27,810 And I realise now that your response was partly you 863 00:52:28,010 --> 00:52:30,690 projecting your own guilt on to my adultery. 864 00:52:30,890 --> 00:52:33,050 I'm your dad, if you don't mind. 865 00:52:33,250 --> 00:52:36,030 And I'm your ex-husband so, you know, we might want to be 866 00:52:36,230 --> 00:52:39,010 moving this along to something slightly less incendiary. 867 00:52:40,090 --> 00:52:43,010 I'm sorry, Eddie, but it needed to be said. 868 00:52:43,210 --> 00:52:44,130 Again. Really? 869 00:52:44,330 --> 00:52:47,630 OK, OK, you might have a point, Nicola. I've been thinking. 870 00:52:47,830 --> 00:52:51,130 And praying. And this time, it's going to be different. 871 00:52:51,330 --> 00:52:52,210 I'm glad to hear it. 872 00:52:52,410 --> 00:52:55,290 I am going to redeem myself with you and God. 873 00:52:55,490 --> 00:52:56,930 Just me would be a start. 874 00:52:57,130 --> 00:52:58,370 I'm going to stay right here 875 00:52:58,570 --> 00:53:02,490 and I'm not going to leave till I've got you two back together again. 876 00:53:10,650 --> 00:53:13,690 James! James! Oh...! 877 00:53:23,250 --> 00:53:24,410 You didn't get on. 878 00:53:24,610 --> 00:53:25,770 Wasn't my bus. 879 00:53:31,650 --> 00:53:32,770 Came after me. 880 00:53:32,970 --> 00:53:34,890 I was just going to the shops. 881 00:53:41,890 --> 00:53:43,250 You know we love you. 882 00:53:44,610 --> 00:53:45,850 We love you. 883 00:53:46,050 --> 00:53:47,410 Rolling Stones. 1967. 884 00:53:49,370 --> 00:53:51,370 Sorry. Dad joke. 885 00:53:52,890 --> 00:53:55,970 And you know you find some things harder than other kids? 886 00:53:58,210 --> 00:53:59,770 Lost Weekend. 887 00:53:59,970 --> 00:54:02,850 No, no, no, you don't, you don't get to ask a question. 888 00:54:03,050 --> 00:54:04,850 Not till you've answered Mum. 889 00:54:06,530 --> 00:54:08,290 What do you think autistic means? 890 00:54:10,530 --> 00:54:14,270 Let me see now. 891 00:54:14,470 --> 00:54:18,210 Well, it means... 892 00:54:20,210 --> 00:54:22,410 It just means different, really. 893 00:54:26,530 --> 00:54:27,890 I'm not the same. 894 00:54:28,090 --> 00:54:33,450 Well, most of you is the same, but maybe a bit of you is different. 895 00:54:33,650 --> 00:54:36,850 The bit that makes some things harder for you. 896 00:54:37,050 --> 00:54:37,970 And some things easier. 897 00:54:38,170 --> 00:54:40,890 Like you remember things better than the other kids and... 898 00:54:41,090 --> 00:54:43,930 And the good news is that makes you Joe. 899 00:54:44,130 --> 00:54:46,770 And Joe is an absolute belter. 900 00:54:46,970 --> 00:54:50,050 "And the good news is we'll be landing immediately 901 00:54:50,250 --> 00:54:52,930 "and the bad news is we're crash landing." 902 00:54:53,130 --> 00:54:54,290 Joe. 903 00:54:54,490 --> 00:54:55,690 Madagascar 2. 904 00:54:55,890 --> 00:54:57,090 I know. I know. 905 00:55:00,530 --> 00:55:01,850 I'm not the same. 906 00:55:03,970 --> 00:55:06,770 Well, no-one's the same. 907 00:55:08,770 --> 00:55:13,690 So... I am the same. 908 00:55:13,890 --> 00:55:18,250 Well, everybody is a bit different. 909 00:55:18,450 --> 00:55:22,170 And the bit of you that's different is autistic. 910 00:55:22,370 --> 00:55:24,170 That's just what it's called. 911 00:55:27,810 --> 00:55:29,370 I'm sorry. I'm very sorry. 912 00:55:29,570 --> 00:55:31,850 No, no, no, hey, no, no, no, you don't, no, 913 00:55:32,050 --> 00:55:33,330 that's not what we mean. 914 00:55:33,530 --> 00:55:34,610 No, it's not that you've, 915 00:55:34,810 --> 00:55:39,070 that you've done anything wrong or it's bad. 916 00:55:39,270 --> 00:55:43,530 You never have to be sorry for this. Never. 917 00:55:44,690 --> 00:55:49,890 Because we've all got things... We're all a bit broken, you know. 918 00:55:52,290 --> 00:55:55,090 We are. And... 919 00:55:55,290 --> 00:55:57,290 Just one thing. Yes. 920 00:55:58,450 --> 00:56:01,690 I have a choc ice. In the freezer. 921 00:56:01,890 --> 00:56:04,310 And it might be going mouldy. 922 00:56:04,510 --> 00:56:06,730 No, no, it won't. You know that. 923 00:56:06,930 --> 00:56:09,730 And from time to time you might need a bit more help. 924 00:56:11,570 --> 00:56:13,970 But that's OK. 925 00:56:17,570 --> 00:56:19,850 I don't want to talk about autistic any more. 926 00:56:20,050 --> 00:56:23,370 Me neither, love, me neither. 927 00:56:36,210 --> 00:56:37,170 Guess what? 928 00:56:37,370 --> 00:56:39,390 James is staying. 929 00:56:39,590 --> 00:56:41,610 Er, better than that. 930 00:56:41,810 --> 00:56:42,970 We're engaged! 931 00:56:57,050 --> 00:56:58,410 # want to say 932 00:56:59,810 --> 00:57:02,630 # There's nothing left I want to say 933 00:57:02,830 --> 00:57:05,450 # There's nothing left I want to say # 934 00:57:05,650 --> 00:57:09,410 # Because I've put up with you for too long 935 00:57:12,690 --> 00:57:16,330 # I thought I could stick with you but I was wrong... # 936 00:57:30,490 --> 00:57:32,090 First day at a special school? 937 00:57:32,290 --> 00:57:33,650 It's not a special school. 938 00:57:33,850 --> 00:57:35,010 It's a specialist base. 939 00:57:35,210 --> 00:57:37,770 Can we stop pretending that it's not just a bit weird? 940 00:57:37,970 --> 00:57:39,450 It's not the way to my school. 941 00:57:39,650 --> 00:57:41,490 You can see how it is with Joe at the moment. 942 00:57:41,690 --> 00:57:42,650 They're going to need some help. 943 00:57:42,850 --> 00:57:44,890 We're supposed to be going to London. I've got a job lined up 944 00:57:44,990 --> 00:57:46,490 - in a recording studio. - No, you haven't. 945 00:57:46,690 --> 00:57:49,210 You get on better than most couples that are together. 946 00:57:49,410 --> 00:57:50,570 The reason being we aren't together. 947 00:57:50,770 --> 00:57:53,530 You promised me. Because I won't do your dirty work without knowing why. 948 00:57:53,730 --> 00:57:55,730 Maybe it's just too big a change for him. 949 00:57:55,930 --> 00:57:56,690 It's day one, Paul. 950 00:57:56,790 --> 00:57:58,850 Exactly. Which means we can change our minds. 951 00:57:59,050 --> 00:58:02,650 CREDITS