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When you're 12 years old,

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anything that makes you
unique makes you stand out,

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and that's the last thing you
want to do in junior high.

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Can I... touch it?

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Gary Coleman hadn't made the afro part

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a common sight yet.

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While being one of only three
Black kids in my class

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was a more obvious difference,

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it wasn't so obvious to me how
my friend Brad stood out.

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Hey, Brad!

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Even though he looked white,

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people saw him differently, too.

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There's a penny.

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- You gonna pick it up?
- At 12,

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I didn't understand the complexity
and hate behind the joke.

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I just knew they were targeting
Brad because he was Jewish.

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And Brad was just doing
what we were all doing...

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trying to survive junior high.

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I know what you're looking
at, but a penny's a penny!

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We should go to the comic-book
store after school tomorrow

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and see if they have
the new Daredevil yet.

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For sure. Brad, you coming?

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Can't. I gotta go to Hebrew School.

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I thought you only went to
Hebrew School on Sundays.

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I do, but with my Bar Mitzvah coming up,

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they're making me go every
single day after school too.

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Really? Every day?

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Yeah, well, I gotta learn to
sing my Bar Mitzvah parsha

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and then write a whole speech about it.

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And it's not one of those cool portions

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about locusts or boils, either.

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It's just a father giving advice
to his sons on his deathbed.

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Yeah, and all that's
from the Torah, right?

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Stop bragging because you
know one Jewish thing.

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Imagine singing something in
a language you barely know

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in front of people you barely know.

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Sounds brutal.

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All this just to turn
13 and dance the hora?

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Fine. Two Jewish things.

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It's more than that, though. It's a whole
"becoming a man" thing or whatever.

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My pops said you become a man when you
start paying for the electric bills.

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My auntie told me I'd become a man

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when I learn to please a woman.

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Okay, maybe I didn't know
anything about becoming a man,

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but I did know one thing...

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Don't worry, Brad. I'll help you.

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Well, with the speech part.

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You know, I got an "A" on my oral
book report for Animal Farm.

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Really? You'll help me?

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- I got you.
- Thanks!

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Now I can focus on the best
part of having a Bar Mitzvah...

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- throwing the party!
- Wait.

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There's a party?

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- Are we invited?
- Of course!

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My mom says I can invite anyone I want.

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Can I invite Charlene, too?

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Me and Charlene had been
dating for a month,

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and we'd already run
out of things to do.

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Dean?

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Dean!

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It would really help me out
if you invite Charlene.

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A Bar Mitzvah is the exact kind of party

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we need to reignite our passion.

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I still really didn't know what
a Bar Mitzvah actually was.

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I was hoping maybe you
could invite Kim instead?

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Well, maybe if you let
me invite Charlene,

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there could be a way I can
get Kim to come, too.

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- Deal?
- Deal!

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Now get to Hebrew
School and Torah it up!

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We have a party to prep for.

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www.subtitulamos.tv

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You better not be spoiling your dinner.

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Guess what? I got invited
to Brad's Bar Mitzvah.

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I get to wear a suit and everything.

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Did he invite anyone else
from the neighborhood?

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Cory and Charlene are coming.

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Well, will ya look at that.

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I bet his parents are
inviting you guys, too.

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I think the invitation
is just for his friends.

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This is a very special thing
that Brad's inviting you to.

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A Bar Mitzvah means a lot
for a young Jewish boy,

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and it says a lot about
Brad to include everybody.

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- Kim, you're invited, too.
- To what?

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Brad's Bar Mitzvah party.

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I'd rather be caught dead than go to
a party with a bunch of little kids.

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Plus, Brad stares at me too much.

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Actually, Kim, I think you should go.

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What part of "I'd rather be
caught dead" are you not hearing?

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I know I didn't just hear
attitude coming from that mouth.

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No, sir.

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This is an environment Dean
hasn't been in before.

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- So?
- So, we know Brad's folks,

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but we don't know Brad's folks' folks.

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I think it'd be a good idea for Dean

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to have someone there to look after him,

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someone who cares about him.

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Why you asking me, then?

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- You're going, and that's final.
- Fine.

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But I'm gonna need some
new Bar Mitzvah shoes.

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I swear, Lillian, that girl
gonna be the death of me.

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She's gonna be the death of us all.

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Couldn't agree more.

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No, you hang up first, Charlene.

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No, you...

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Hello?

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Can't believe she hung up first.

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So, you've been spending a lot
of time with Charlene lately.

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- I guess.
- Is she your girlfriend?

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Mom!

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- Dad, do something!
- Boy, answer your mother.

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Yes, she's my girlfriend.

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Look at you. You got yourself
a little girlfriend.

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My man!

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It's an exciting thing when
your dad's impressed with you

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for the first time.

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You got any money on you?
Got a girlfriend now.

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Gotta have a little money in
your pocket at all times.

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But you don't give me an allowance.

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That's right. Not going to.

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But here's $3 for you and your lady.

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Well, I think it's sweet
that you have a girlfriend.

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Charlene seems like a nice girl.

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And she's a preacher's daughter,

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so make sure you treat her right.
Be respectful.

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Don't be out there acting all mannish.

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All we ever do is talk.

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Then what you need those $3 for?

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Well, just make sure that
she treats you right, too.

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- What do you mean?
- Well, I noticed that you do

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a lot of things that she likes to do,

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but not a lot of things
that you like to do.

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That's not true.

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So you like The Lawrence Welk Show?

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Yeah. I... like the bubbles.

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My point is, Dean,

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you don't have to change who you
are to make a girl like you.

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Well, I changed for you. You
made me get rid of my conk.

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And you're welcome for that.

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But Dean is perfect the way he is.

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Thanks, Mom. I get it. I won't
let her boss me around.

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Okay, baby.

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And I'll make sure to
have that brown suit

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pressed and ready for the Bar Mitzvah.

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Charlene wants me to wear black.

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Oh, Lord.

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There's no way they
think Daredevil's dead.

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- How much you willing to bet?
- How much ya got?

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Excuse me. Dean?

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You're still walking me to class, right?

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Well, yeah, of course.

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Well, I gotta get to social studies.

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- See ya, Dean! Bye, Charlene.
- See ya, Keisa!

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You know, you've been real quiet
about that Archie comic I gave you.

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I haven't read it yet.

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Yeah, well, maybe if you weren't
so busy reading Keisa's comics

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and talking about them all bus ride,
you'd have time to read mine.

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Yeah, probably.

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I read in Seventeen that in order
to have a healthy relationship,

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each person in the couple has to get rid of
their friendships with the opposite sex.

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So I won't be friends with any boys...

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But you don't have any
friends who are...

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- and you'll stop being friends with Keisa.
- Wait, wait, wait, wait. Why?

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W-We've been friends for, like, forever.

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And if we're gonna be
boyfriend/girlfriend forever,

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then we need to have a
healthy relationship, right?

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- I guess.
- Good! Glad we both agree.

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But, I mean, does Keisa even count?

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She's not really a girl.
She's just my friend.

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You don't still like her, do you?

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O-No. No! It's just, it
doesn't seem fair to Keisa.

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Well, these are the sort
of mature decisions

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that we have to be ready to
make now that we're dating.

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If I had read that Archie comic,

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I could have told her that she
was being a total Veronica.

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- I guess so.
- Good!

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Have a good day at school, Dean.

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Keisa?

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Hey, Dean. Wanna play Horse?

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Sure, but I need to talk...

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Yes!

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Your turn.

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That's "H"!

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Bucket!

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Charlene said that...

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Dang it!

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You're really off today. I don't
usually beat you this bad.

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That's because I'm trying
to tell you something.

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Tuck your elbow in this time.

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Nice one!

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See? I knew you had it in you.

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See? Keisa was the best.

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How could I bring myself to
tell her that our friendship

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that has meant so much to
me for so long had to end

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because I have a girlfriend now?

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Charlene said that we
can't be friends anymore.

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Okay. If that's what you want.

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Well, I hope she's gonna be okay.

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Hey. What's goin' on, fellas?

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I forgot the new issue came out!

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I just got it yesterday.

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I would've taken you with me,
but we're not friends anymore,

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so I should probably take my comic book

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that everyone is reading and
loving to another table.

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- Sorry, guys.
- No! Come on! Don't go!

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- No! Please don't go!
- Please!

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00:09:06,174 --> 00:09:09,246
Guess that means you should
go sit at another table.

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For the sake of your
relationship, of course.

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Dean! Settle a bet.

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Who's your favorite Pussycat?
And Josie doesn't count.

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Hey, guys. What's going on?

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Dang, Keisa.

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I can't believe your brother just
gave you all his baseball cards

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- like that.
- Yeah.

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If we were still friends,

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I could trade you this extra
Willie Mays card I have.

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But how would you ever explain
it to your girlfriend?

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It quickly became clear that my decision

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to end my friendship with Keisa
had completely backfired.

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- Anyone want homemade brownies?
- Cool. - Yes!

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Sorry, Dean.

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My mom told me to share
these with my friends.

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And since we aren't friends anymore...

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The woman was diabolical.

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Too bad you and Keisa
can't be friends anymore.

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She's great! I even invited
her to my Bar Mitzvah.

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Brad's breath had the smell of
delicious double-fudge brownies

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mixed with the stench of betrayal!

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Well... Not too tight, Bill.

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The boy nearly passed out
at church last time.

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I thought he caught the Holy Ghost.

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Well, you just make sure you're
on your best behavior, Dean.

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You're representing this family, too.

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If anything happens that makes
you feel uncomfortable,

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your sister will be right there.

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And just so you know, I don't
want you talking to me

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or looking at me or breathing near me.

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I don't even want people
to know we're related.

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I'm pretty sure they gonna know.

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Just look out for one another.

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Why are you so worried?
It's just a Bar Mitzvah.

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Brad and his parents may have
friends who aren't as...

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welcoming as they are.

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00:11:01,789 --> 00:11:04,484
You know how Granddaddy Clisby
says things about white people?

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How would you feel if we invited
Brad over to hang out with him?

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Now, that I understood.

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00:11:10,156 --> 00:11:13,086
Well, we should get going. We don't
want to keep Charlene waiting.

247
00:11:13,112 --> 00:11:15,997
Now, when you pick up Charlene
and her father answers the door,

248
00:11:16,023 --> 00:11:18,031
you need to look him
directly in the eye.

249
00:11:18,156 --> 00:11:19,755
He's not gonna like you, son,

250
00:11:19,781 --> 00:11:21,989
but that's just because he's a good dad.

251
00:11:22,015 --> 00:11:24,936
Regardless, you give
him a firm handshake.

252
00:11:25,314 --> 00:11:26,867
Let me see yours.

253
00:11:31,413 --> 00:11:34,132
Let's hope her mom answers instead.

254
00:11:51,967 --> 00:11:54,967
What's going on with you?
Charlene's waiting.

255
00:11:55,583 --> 00:11:57,724
You haven't shut up about
this Bar Mitzvah all week.

256
00:11:57,750 --> 00:11:59,612
Why do you look like you
don't even wanna go now?

257
00:11:59,638 --> 00:12:01,768
Nothing. It's... It's fine.

258
00:12:01,794 --> 00:12:03,199
Suit yourself.

259
00:12:03,568 --> 00:12:05,602
Okay, fine! I'll tell you.

260
00:12:05,630 --> 00:12:07,885
Charlene said that I can't be
friends with Keisa anymore,

261
00:12:07,911 --> 00:12:09,901
which means I can't be with
the rest of my friends,

262
00:12:09,927 --> 00:12:12,752
and now I'm gonna be stuck sitting
with a bunch of toothless old people!

263
00:12:12,778 --> 00:12:15,281
Why doesn't Charlene want you
and Keisa being friends?

264
00:12:15,350 --> 00:12:18,229
She said that, in order for us
to have a healthy relationship,

265
00:12:18,255 --> 00:12:21,424
we have to stop being friends
with people of the opposite sex.

266
00:12:21,450 --> 00:12:24,229
That sounds like the -- they put
in Seventeen for white people.

267
00:12:24,255 --> 00:12:28,019
Now I'll be stuck sitting with a bunch
of boring girls Charlene sits with.

268
00:12:28,737 --> 00:12:31,579
Why don't you just get Charlene
to become friends with Keisa?

269
00:12:31,613 --> 00:12:34,086
Then her friends are your friends
and you can all hang out together.

270
00:12:34,112 --> 00:12:36,347
It was in moments like
these that I remembered

271
00:12:36,373 --> 00:12:39,633
that Kim wasn't just my
sister; She was a girl, too.

272
00:12:39,659 --> 00:12:42,003
She actually knew how girls worked!

273
00:12:42,089 --> 00:12:44,360
Yeah. You're right. Thanks, Kim.

274
00:12:44,386 --> 00:12:46,761
You know, I-I didn't really want
to tell you at first, but...

275
00:12:50,798 --> 00:12:53,625
Your mom squeezed my hand so hard!

276
00:12:53,948 --> 00:12:56,284
With all the Charlene and Keisa drama,

277
00:12:56,310 --> 00:12:58,907
I forgot that I was entering
an actual synagogue

278
00:12:58,933 --> 00:13:00,704
for the first time in my life,

279
00:13:00,730 --> 00:13:02,571
though it kind of reminded me of church.

280
00:13:02,597 --> 00:13:05,722
There was one thing that I
couldn't quite figure out, though.

281
00:13:05,748 --> 00:13:06,920
Hey.

282
00:13:06,946 --> 00:13:09,026
Where's their Jesus on the cross?

283
00:13:10,292 --> 00:13:12,987
What? Jesus was a Jewish
man, too, you know.

284
00:13:13,013 --> 00:13:16,355
Clearly, I was still playing
catch-up on the whole Jewish thing.

285
00:13:16,628 --> 00:13:19,587
What I did know was that I
now had a foolproof plan

286
00:13:19,622 --> 00:13:22,198
on how I was gonna be
friends with Keisa again.

287
00:13:23,070 --> 00:13:25,311
Hey! Keisa! So good to see you.

288
00:13:25,409 --> 00:13:28,049
Especially since, you know,
we haven't talked in so long.

289
00:13:28,075 --> 00:13:29,909
You remember Charlene.

290
00:13:32,065 --> 00:13:34,899
I was just thinking how you
two had so much in common.

291
00:13:34,940 --> 00:13:37,019
W-When did you guys meet? Kindergarten?

292
00:13:37,386 --> 00:13:40,035
What a time to forge
lifelong friendships!

293
00:13:40,104 --> 00:13:41,709
What was that like?

294
00:13:41,735 --> 00:13:43,104
You're bad at this.

295
00:13:44,888 --> 00:13:46,651
Hey, Dean!

296
00:13:49,216 --> 00:13:51,320
You guys continue your soul connection.

297
00:13:51,346 --> 00:13:53,034
I'll be right back.

298
00:13:56,347 --> 00:13:58,963
- Hey! Mazel tov, Brad!
- I'm freaking out!

299
00:13:58,989 --> 00:14:01,469
- What? Why?
- What do you mean, why?

300
00:14:01,495 --> 00:14:03,380
What if I forget my Torah portion?

301
00:14:03,415 --> 00:14:05,032
Or what if my voice cracks?

302
00:14:05,058 --> 00:14:08,008
Or what if I drop the Torah?
Those things are like 50 pounds.

303
00:14:08,034 --> 00:14:10,855
I haven't even finished
my speech yet, and...

304
00:14:11,209 --> 00:14:13,761
God, my parents are gonna kill me!

305
00:14:14,627 --> 00:14:15,745
Hey!

306
00:14:15,894 --> 00:14:17,774
You said you were gonna help me!

307
00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:19,282
All you've done is ignore me!

308
00:14:19,308 --> 00:14:22,003
I knew I was letting Brad down,
but this was my one chance

309
00:14:22,029 --> 00:14:24,696
to get Keisa and Charlene
to become best friends,

310
00:14:24,730 --> 00:14:26,285
and it was slipping through my fingers.

311
00:14:26,311 --> 00:14:28,480
Well, I've got my own problems, dang it!

312
00:14:37,139 --> 00:14:39,897
Hey. What are you two talking about?

313
00:14:39,923 --> 00:14:42,792
Having fun? Making friends?

314
00:14:43,800 --> 00:14:45,104
They were not.

315
00:14:45,216 --> 00:14:47,158
Come on. We better sit down.

316
00:14:47,389 --> 00:14:49,389
You know, Dean, maybe you're
just one of those guys

317
00:14:49,415 --> 00:14:51,380
who isn't meant to have a girlfriend.

318
00:14:58,696 --> 00:14:59,865
Here.

319
00:14:59,990 --> 00:15:01,466
Let me help you.

320
00:15:02,118 --> 00:15:04,615
You must be Brad's friends.

321
00:15:06,553 --> 00:15:08,467
I am his Aunt Ruth.

322
00:15:08,639 --> 00:15:10,026
What are your names?

323
00:15:10,070 --> 00:15:14,561
I'm Kim, and this is Dean, my brother.

324
00:15:16,173 --> 00:15:18,115
Let me show you where to go.

325
00:15:20,490 --> 00:15:22,828
What does it mean to
become a Jewish man?

326
00:15:22,932 --> 00:15:25,772
When I saw how nervous
Brad was in that moment,

327
00:15:25,798 --> 00:15:28,014
I knew I had to make things right.

328
00:15:29,573 --> 00:15:31,342
I gotta go talk to Brad.

329
00:15:31,865 --> 00:15:34,346
There's no way I'm letting you
make a scene and embarrass...

330
00:15:34,415 --> 00:15:35,654
Excuse me.

331
00:15:36,458 --> 00:15:38,113
And there he goes.

332
00:15:38,139 --> 00:15:40,324
And if it meant embarrassing
myself down here

333
00:15:40,350 --> 00:15:42,734
to keep Brad from embarrassing
himself up there,

334
00:15:42,760 --> 00:15:44,756
then that's a price I
was willing to pay.

335
00:15:45,006 --> 00:15:47,772
That was an open-toed shoe.
I'm sorry. Sorry again.

336
00:15:50,006 --> 00:15:52,518
Hey, Brad. Over here.

337
00:15:52,587 --> 00:15:54,863
What are you doing?
You can't be up here.

338
00:15:55,084 --> 00:15:58,075
Well... I remembered
something that my dad said

339
00:15:58,101 --> 00:16:00,701
about getting stage
fright before a big show.

340
00:16:00,904 --> 00:16:04,070
Just picture everybody's
in their underwear.

341
00:16:04,294 --> 00:16:08,162
Once they all look crazy,
you won't feel so scared.

342
00:16:10,263 --> 00:16:11,771
Just be yourself, man.

343
00:16:12,120 --> 00:16:14,006
That's all everyone
here wants you to be.

344
00:16:15,897 --> 00:16:19,311
And now it's time for
our Bar Mitzvah boy.

345
00:16:32,623 --> 00:16:35,769
For my Bar Mitzvah, I
studied a Rabbinic text

346
00:16:35,795 --> 00:16:39,035
that explains that every
person is given three names.

347
00:16:39,232 --> 00:16:42,277
The first is the name given
to you by your parents.

348
00:16:42,303 --> 00:16:44,764
For me, that was Baruch, my Hebrew name.

349
00:16:45,545 --> 00:16:48,482
The second is the name given
to you by your friends.

350
00:16:48,575 --> 00:16:50,178
For me, that was Brad.

351
00:16:50,797 --> 00:16:52,990
But the third is the
most important name.

352
00:16:53,373 --> 00:16:55,365
It's the name you give yourself.

353
00:16:55,961 --> 00:16:58,192
Now, it's that third one I was stuck on.

354
00:16:59,615 --> 00:17:02,670
I had to really think about who I was,

355
00:17:02,889 --> 00:17:05,518
separate from who people wanted me to be

356
00:17:05,873 --> 00:17:08,248
or who people were forcing me to be.

357
00:17:09,656 --> 00:17:13,271
Being Jewish in Montgomery means
feeling different all the time.

358
00:17:13,520 --> 00:17:15,349
I spent a lot of that time...

359
00:17:16,053 --> 00:17:18,756
feeling embarrassed about being Jewish.

360
00:17:18,896 --> 00:17:21,326
But I don't want to
feel that way anymore.

361
00:17:21,656 --> 00:17:23,227
So from now on,

362
00:17:23,346 --> 00:17:27,064
I'm not just gonna stand by
while people make fun of me

363
00:17:27,119 --> 00:17:28,922
or try to make me feel bad.

364
00:17:29,166 --> 00:17:31,627
No, instead, I'm gonna
stand up for myself,

365
00:17:31,760 --> 00:17:33,283
for my people,

366
00:17:33,493 --> 00:17:35,305
and for what I believe is right.

367
00:17:35,689 --> 00:17:38,346
I may I not know what
my third name is yet,

368
00:17:38,673 --> 00:17:40,658
but I do know who I am.

369
00:17:42,833 --> 00:17:45,103
A proud Jew from Alabama.

370
00:17:45,932 --> 00:17:48,197
Thank you, and Shabbat Shalom!

371
00:17:50,174 --> 00:17:51,726
It was in that moment

372
00:17:51,752 --> 00:17:54,314
that I started seeing
Brad in a new light.

373
00:17:54,674 --> 00:17:56,109
Up until that point,

374
00:17:56,135 --> 00:17:58,280
I could name all the things
that made us different,

375
00:17:58,306 --> 00:17:59,681
but after Brad's speech,

376
00:17:59,725 --> 00:18:02,780
it was clear we had way more in
common than I'd ever realized.

377
00:18:02,806 --> 00:18:04,835
- L'chaim!
- And it was those similarities

378
00:18:04,861 --> 00:18:06,627
that made us that much closer

379
00:18:06,653 --> 00:18:08,900
and our friendship that much stronger,

380
00:18:08,942 --> 00:18:10,627
even to this day.

381
00:18:13,377 --> 00:18:15,952
Brad later confided in me
that he did take my advice

382
00:18:15,978 --> 00:18:17,933
and pictured everyone
in their underwear.

383
00:18:17,959 --> 00:18:20,892
Unfortunately, that also
included my sister.

384
00:18:23,713 --> 00:18:24,820
Poor Brad.

385
00:18:24,869 --> 00:18:27,908
He needed a moment to
compose himself afterwards.

386
00:18:28,298 --> 00:18:29,978
No. No, no.

387
00:18:37,970 --> 00:18:40,143
Now that I'd made
things right with Brad,

388
00:18:40,169 --> 00:18:42,041
I needed to stand up for myself,

389
00:18:42,067 --> 00:18:44,096
like I should've done when
Charlene made me watch

390
00:18:44,122 --> 00:18:45,838
that stupid Lawrence Welk Show

391
00:18:45,864 --> 00:18:48,072
or read that dumb Archie comic,

392
00:18:48,098 --> 00:18:50,658
or when she said, "Tab
tastes just like Coke."

393
00:18:50,684 --> 00:18:52,622
No, Charlene, it doesn't.

394
00:18:54,762 --> 00:18:57,572
Charlene, me and Keisa are best friends,

395
00:18:57,598 --> 00:18:58,854
and I don't want that to end,

396
00:18:58,880 --> 00:19:00,742
so if you have a problem with that,

397
00:19:00,777 --> 00:19:03,018
then that's your problem, not mine.

398
00:19:03,247 --> 00:19:05,626
How could you be so mean, Dean?

399
00:19:05,652 --> 00:19:08,307
And on the night before
our 26-day anniversary.

400
00:19:09,949 --> 00:19:12,309
Well, this is gonna be
an awkward ride home.

401
00:19:13,959 --> 00:19:15,106
Dean.

402
00:19:15,846 --> 00:19:19,012
I couldn't help but notice, a
little situation here, buddy.

403
00:19:19,848 --> 00:19:21,193
Now that I'm a man,

404
00:19:21,535 --> 00:19:23,473
can I give you a little piece of advice?

405
00:19:24,061 --> 00:19:25,723
One day, when you're older,

406
00:19:25,887 --> 00:19:29,473
you'll look back on all these
problems that seem so big right...

407
00:19:29,499 --> 00:19:31,161
- Shut up, Brad!
- Shut up, Brad!

408
00:19:35,512 --> 00:19:38,651
I know what I said to Charlene
was harsh, but I have to admit,

409
00:19:38,677 --> 00:19:42,190
it felt good to finally take control
of things and stand up for myself.

410
00:19:42,259 --> 00:19:44,716
Now I just had one thing left to do.

411
00:19:45,825 --> 00:19:48,557
- Keisa! I was just looking...
- Save it, Dean.

412
00:19:48,583 --> 00:19:50,447
Charlene told me how
cruel you were to her.

413
00:19:50,473 --> 00:19:53,759
- Wait. I was only trying to just be...
- Look.

414
00:19:53,785 --> 00:19:56,137
I need to be Charlene's
friend right now.

415
00:19:57,231 --> 00:19:59,369
- What?
- It's like when you stopped

416
00:19:59,395 --> 00:20:02,041
being friends with me because
Charlene asked you to.

417
00:20:02,067 --> 00:20:04,777
Well, Charlene needs me right now.

418
00:20:04,965 --> 00:20:07,506
And I can't be friends with
you while she hates you.

419
00:20:07,603 --> 00:20:10,741
But you understand that. Right, Dean?

420
00:20:12,225 --> 00:20:14,682
Clearly, Keisa wasn't
finished punishing me

421
00:20:14,724 --> 00:20:16,377
for what I'd done to her earlier.

422
00:20:16,481 --> 00:20:19,731
Turns out all 12-year-old girls need
in order to become lifelong friends

423
00:20:19,757 --> 00:20:21,146
is a common enemy,

424
00:20:21,190 --> 00:20:23,137
and that enemy was me.

425
00:20:38,091 --> 00:20:40,432
Standing up for myself
resulted in me losing

426
00:20:40,501 --> 00:20:43,432
both my girlfriend and my best friend.

427
00:20:43,501 --> 00:20:46,294
Luckily, I was able to lean
into the part of Judaism

428
00:20:46,328 --> 00:20:48,087
that suited me in that moment...

429
00:20:48,156 --> 00:20:50,153
the suffering part.

430
00:20:51,419 --> 00:20:54,880
Maybe I had gained a better understanding
of Brad's cultural history.

431
00:20:54,984 --> 00:20:57,753
But watching Brad get
lifted up on that chair,

432
00:20:57,779 --> 00:21:01,206
I realized that standing up for
yourself and owning who you are

433
00:21:01,232 --> 00:21:03,673
can actually elevate
you in the long run.

434
00:21:03,742 --> 00:21:06,151
'Cause even though I had
lost so much that day,

435
00:21:06,177 --> 00:21:09,310
I gained something else... self-respect.

436
00:21:09,411 --> 00:21:11,314
And if that doesn't make you a man,

437
00:21:11,340 --> 00:21:12,730
I don't know what does.

438
00:21:12,755 --> 00:21:17,300
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